Pray That They Listen to the Man with No Voice

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On Monday, December 12, 2016 at 3:36 PM I sent some text messages to my friend Judy Chapman asking for prayers in desperation. It was the culmination of 12 days of an emotional roller coaster surrounding one of the most serious health risks I’ve ever had in my 61+ years. It started with an ordinary scratchy throat from a viral head cold on December 1. By dinner time on December 3 we called 911 and I was on my way to St. Vincent Hospital in serious respiratory distress in the back of an ambulance. I made my way from the ER to the ICU where I was intubated at 3 AM that morning. Although I was extubated a couple of days later, I took another turn for the worse and they had to perform a tracheostomy. The inability to talk while intubated and after having had the tracheostomy pushed me to my emotional limits. I’m accustomed to being an active participant in my own healthcare decisions but the inability to talk led me on a bizarre sequence of events that would lead to the text message prayer request that I sent Judy that afternoon.

Because of my disability, I cannot operate an iPhone using the touchscreen. Earlier this year I designed, built, and programmed an electronic gadget that I described as “the ultimate remote control“. It is operated by three small push buttons that I hold in my right hand. The device sends Bluetooth signals to the phone and makes use of the iOS 9 accessibility feature called “switch control”. By pushing three little micro switches, I can operate any of the phone’s functions including sending text messages. Over the past several days this was my primary method of communicating with the doctors and nurses for anything other than simple yes and no questions. I would type messages in the “Notes” app on the iPhone and then the doctors would look at my phone and they would read what I had written. Unfortunately it was a slow and tedious process fraught with difficulty.

I began the text messages to Judy with a joke. I told her that if she had heard a loud whirring noise from the south side of Indianapolis it was my mother spinning in her grave over all of the things that I was enduring. But then it came time to get serious and ask for prayers.

Typing using this device is a bit slow so there’s time to think about each word. I begin with “Pray that…” Okay Chris, be specific, for what do you want her to pray? Healing? Even though I was lying in bed with a tracheostomy and in need of a ventilator to sleep, physically things were going reasonably well under the circumstances. What led me to this emotional meltdown that I was experiencing? What did I really want most in the world at that very moment? Patience? I didn’t want to be patient. I wanted results now. If not healing or patience what did I want? I typed the next two words “…they listen…”.

The message now read “Pray that they listen…” and I was about to type “… to me.” But a sad, sick giggle rose up inside me. “…listen to me?” I had no voice! How the hell do you listen to a man who has no voice? Yet that’s what I really wanted. I wanted a miracle. I wanted people to listen to the man with no voice. So I completed the sentence that way.

“Pray that they listen to the man with no voice.” And I sent it.

And then I read it over and over and over again. The sentence shocked me. It was full of pain and sorrow and desperation. It perfectly expressed the emotions that I was feeling and it revealed them back to me with a clarity that shook me. I’ve written powerful dramatic sentences in my time. I’ve won awards for my writing. This may have been the most powerful sentence I’ve ever written in my life.

I realized that if that was the title of a blog post or perhaps a magazine article or even a book that I would be drawn in immediately. I would want to read that story. What was the story behind those words? Why did the man feel he had no voice and what did he want them to hear that they were not hearing? How did he get to that point in his life that he made that prayer request?

That’s the story I’m going to tell in this series of blog posts. When it’s complete, perhaps I will attempt to get it published. My experiences leading up to that moment, the issues raised in my struggle, and the journey beyond that moment I believe will be a worthwhile tale to tell and I feel compelled to tell it to the widest possible audience.

So let’s go back to the beginning of the story and I will tell you how I got to that moment where I felt that despair and wrote those words.

To be continued in the next post…

RIP: My First Kiss

When Erich Segal wrote his 1970 novel “Love Story” the first line read “What can you say about a twenty-five-year-old who died?” He then proceeded to tell a classic American boy meets girl love story. One could not accuse him of the proverbial “burying the lead” in the story. Nevertheless despite the fact that the book and the movie both began with that sentence, many people were surprised when near the end of the story the girl dies. It’s like people forgot the opening sentence no matter how memorable it might have been. If you ask someone to quote a famous line from that book or movie you will probably get “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” When Ryan O’Neal who starred in Love Story was fed that line in another movie, his reply was “That’s the stupidest thing I ever heard.” I tend to agree.

Perhaps Sagal was too clever with his opening line. Maybe he should’ve been more blunt. In an attempt to learn from his mistake we begin our tale as follows.

A couple of days ago I found out that the first girl I ever kissed had died in 2013.

The fact that she was the first girl I ever kissed is the only really significant thing about her. I’ve had other girlfriends (some living some now dead) who meant much more to me. But because she holds the distinction of being my first kiss, her story deserves to be chronicled considering that I’ve chronicled so much of my life story in blogs, emails to friends, and even published magazine articles.

I recently have gone on a string of Internet searches for long-lost friends. It’s not the first time I’ve done Facebook and Google searches to reconnect with my past but I seem to have done a lot of it lately. Perhaps it’s because a little over a year ago I passed the milestone age of 60. Perhaps it’s the fact that I made it to 61 and beyond that has caused me to gain more nostalgia for my youth.

In the past few months I’ve had some great success. I reconnected with an old college buddy named Frank Williams who was especially hard to find because Frank Williams is such a common name. Frank was part of a gang of people that hung out with me and my lifetime friends Rich and Kathy Logan. Frank used to play keyboards in a band that would play out local bars and nightclubs. I discovered that 40 years later he still is playing the part of “piano man” singing Billy Joel songs in bars and nightclubs. I finally discovered him on Facebook. He’s the guy who used to occasionally call me Christopher even though my given name is Chris. In retaliation I would call him Frankfurter. I would say if you could put a “… topher” on my name that doesn’t belong I can put a “… furter” on your name that doesn’t belong. It was also appropriate to call him Frankfurter because every day for lunch he would eat two hot dogs split down the middle on white bread piled with so much catsup and mustard there was almost more condiment then there was meat. We have swapped a few Facebook messages and will probably get together again for an in person visit sometime soon. Perhaps I’ll go see him play in a bar somewhere.

From the former girlfriend department I also recently reconnected with Ella Vinci via Facebook. We met in a sociology class in college my third semester at IUPUI and had lunch together every day after class. We went out for dinner and a movie several times. She took me to my first hockey game. She is normally a mild-mannered person however when she is at a hockey game her personality totally changes. She screams and yells at every hard hit “Kill him kill him!” I have often described her as the person who taught me a deep appreciation of violence on ice. She also happens to be the first girl not in a wheelchair that I ever dated. But more than any of those things she taught me that I could have a very enjoyable and rewarding platonic friendship with a woman. She deserves a major multi-part blog to really do her story justice.

Other Google searches for long-lost friends have not fared as well. I still can’t find grade school and junior high friends Teddy Hayes or Greg Whitney. There was a girl I knew at Northwest High School named Melody Richards or perhaps Richardson I forget. Like Frank Williams that name is too common.

Others I found too late. There is evidence that one of my best grade school friends Estel Troxel passed away several years ago as did my buddy Carol Nash. I found obituaries that I’m pretty sure belong to them. Much irony regarding Nash’s passing. Over the years whenever I have run into him various places he has greeted me with the words “Aren’t you dead yet?” He is referring to the fact that all of our friends from grade school and high school who had muscular dystrophy died in their late teens or early 20s. I always took his greeting as a backhanded way of saying “I’m glad you made it this far”. Fortunately for me I have a different kind of genetic neuromuscular disease than any of them had and I made it to 61 and counting.

But let’s get to the story that we really want to tell. Her name was Cheryl Fayette. She was a freshman when I was a senior at IPS #97 James E Roberts School. That was a special school built only for handicapped kids. The story of that school is chronicled in my award-winning magazine article “The Reunion” which you can read here.

The short version of the Roberts School story is that it was attended by me and other disabled kids from kindergarten all the way through high school. The high school consisted of approximately 30 students and that is all for years we’re talking about. Not 30 per year. There were just two teachers and two classrooms. It was the best they could do but the place was really a joke. That’s why I spent my sophomore through senior years attending my regular neighborhood high school Northwest High School part of the day. I went to Roberts School the other half of the day. I could not take all my classes at Northwest because it did not have an elevator in those days.

At Roberts they did their best to give us as “normal” of an experience as they could and to that end we actually had prom at the end of the school year. With only 30 students total we obviously did not have separate junior and senior proms. But to make it a little more special it was open to juniors and seniors only as well as recent alumni and of course their dates.

My junior year I didn’t want to go because I didn’t have a date. And it wasn’t so significant that I didn’t have a date but that I would not be able to get my picture taken dressed up in the tuxedo next to some girl. My friend Rosie, whom I had had a serious crush on since the moment I laid eyes on her in seventh grade, agreed to let me have my picture taken with her even though she wasn’t officially my date. You can read lots more about Rosie in the article “The Reunion” but for our purposes know that if I could’ve attended any event anywhere anytime with the girl of my choice it would’ve been her. When the prom photos came back, somewhere along the way my photos with Rosie got lost. Rosie and I did go out a couple of times early in our senior year but it was strictly just as friends. By the way if you’re wondering, Rosie passed away sometime in the early 1990s.

When senior year rolled around I plan to go stag again to the prom and got Rosie to agree to do retakes of the photos since we apparently broke the camera the first time 🙂 But fate had other plans for me besides Rosie. Cheryl Fayette really wanted to go to the prom but because she was a freshman she needed a Junior or Senior or an alumni to invite her.

Even with a bias of my lifelong crush on Rosie, I must admit that Cheryl was the best looking girl in the school. She was in a wheelchair but I don’t really know if she was spinal cord injury or what her particular disability was. She had a cute smile, long black hairy and a really nice chest. If the rumors were to be believed, that ample bosom had been thoroughly explored one day in the art supply room when she made out with Alan Whitney. It could’ve been just his bragging but the story was well known and she never denied it.

It was probably because she was the best looking girl in the school that guys liked to tease her relentlessly. One day one of the guys grabbed her purse and a bunch of them played keep away with it getting her to chase them around. They eventually hung it out the window of the second story boy’s restroom and invited her to “come and get it”. She went and told the shop teacher Mr. Batt and he went and got it for her. He just looked at the guys like “Seriously this is the best stunt you can pull to get a girls attention?” He did not turn them into the principal but warned them to not count on his generosity for future stunts. I was not directly involved in those shenanigans but I had a ringside seat and enjoyed watching.

At some point Cheryl made it known to everyone that she would welcome an invitation to the problem from me. So it’s really a matter of interpretation as to whether I invited her she invited me. But we have to be honest and say that she definitely made the first move. I eventually did ask her and she said yes but it was more of me saying yes I know you are me to ask you so this is me asking. It was sort of like she was the last girl and I was the last guy available. I don’t know if he ever really had any interest in be personally or not. But it didn’t matter. I ended up with a date with a hot girl for the prom.

I explained to her the whole story about Rosie and the lost pictures from last year. She agreed that I could do a retake photo with Rosie. I made it clear that in all other respects Cheryl was my only date. She went about finding a prom dress and I rented a tuxedo and purchased a corsage. The next issue to resolve was transportation. Of course neither of us could drive a car and even though there may have been wheelchair vans for hire in those days they were hardly like hiring a limousine for a prom date. My mom would drive us in our lift equipped van.

One of my buddies Wayman Glass also wanted to go to the prom and wasn’t going to let the lack of a date stop him. His major problem would be transportation as well. We determined that we could actually get 3 wheelchairs into our van so mom agreed that we could pick up Wayman, go get Cheryl, go to the prom, and take them home again. There would be one other stop along the way. Rosie got her mom to agree to have an after prom party for some people at her house.

The prom itself was really pretty lame. Obviously there wasn’t much dancing going on. The Tech High School swing band provided the music. There were munchies and fancy decorations and of course photos in front of a centerpiece. I don’t recall the official “theme” of the prom but the centerpiece was a giant peace symbol made out of chicken wire and crape paper. I got my photo taken with both Rosie and Cheryl. I still have the photos somewhere but I didn’t bother to dig them out for this blog. I probably should have. Perhaps I resisted because its better I remember it than I actually see it at this point.

When we went to Rosie’s house after the prom, all of the kids sat in the living room and our parents gathered in the dining room and drank wine. Mom agreed with me that the after party was much more fun than the prom itself even though she did not drink maybe more than a glass of wine since she was driving. The only bad part about the party was I didn’t end up sitting next to Cheryl. Somehow we ended up across the room for one another which I had hoped to rectify later but the room was so crowded we ended up that way the rest of the evening. I later apologized to her saying at least I could sit and look at the prettiest girl in the room all evening. Not my smoothest move but it was okay. Seriously though during the prom itself she was sitting next to me and I really couldn’t look at her. It was nice to be looking at this hot girl who was my date.

It turned out I was sitting next to my buddy Wayman at Rosie’s party. It was at that point, he was not an interloper who was going to ruin my date but he became my wingman who was going to facilitate the best part of the evening. I wanted to get a good night kiss but with her sitting across the room there was no chance. Also the three of us about to about to get into my van for the ride home which was no good. I knew that outside Rosie’s house was going to be my last opportunity. Wayman was “the man with the plan” as are all good wingmen. I had told him of my plan to try to kiss her and asked if he would give us a moment alone. He had a better idea. He deliberately left his jacket is Rosie’s living room. Just as my mom was about to load us into the van he said “Mrs. Young I forgot my jacket could you go get it please?” My mom went back in the house. Wayman turned his back. And I asked Cheryl for a good night kiss and she agreed.

As first kisses go… It went really well. It wasn’t too awkward. No tongue but for a first one that’s not unusual. Not too wet nor too dry. It was great. It did not escape me however that I was 17 years old, it was prom night, and I was just getting my first kiss ever. Around the city either that weekend or adjacent weekends, hundreds of guys were getting a laid for the first time as part of a prom night tradition. I like to think of it as me being on the right track but seriously behind schedule.

We dropped Cheryl off at her home and then took Wayman home. By that time it was about 2 AM. Wayman lived in a really rough neighborhood just off of 10th St. west of White River. When mom knocked on his door no one answered for a really long time. She said it was kind of scary being out at 2 AM banging on the door in a rough black neighborhood with nothing but a couple of 17-year-olds in wheelchairs as “protection”. His brother finally woke up and came to the door without incident.

So the entire evening was a fun adventure from my mom as well. Over the years she probably told as many stories about that evening as I did. When word got out among our friends that I had kissed her on prom night Rosie seemed very surprised. It might have been wishful thinking on my part that interpreted as jealousy. I remember looking at Rosie and saying “Don’t look at me that way… You blew your chance that this many times”.

I’m sad to report that Wayman was one of those guys with muscular dystrophy that Carol Nash was always talking about. Wayman Glass passed away at about age 25.

After the prom there was still about two weeks left in school before graduation. It was a difficult time for me as high school graduation always is. I knew I was going to be saying goodbye to friends that I would likely never see again. Again I refer you to my story “the Reunion” for more of the details about me somewhat depressing times all of us were going through at Robert School.

One of the things that I had been going through was the realization that if I was to ever find love in life, it probably was not going to be with another handicapped person. When I had a crush on Rosie at age 12 or 13, I never really thought about what kind of life we could or could not have had together. Although her disability was not so severe that she needed any help in daily living skills, she was just barely capable of taking care of herself. A few years later when her mother passed away she was able to live on her own in her own home or apartment for many years until she later married. On the other hand I need pretty much 24/7 help with everything that I do. And even though I had much more capabilities back then than I do now, she would never have been physically capable enough to do everything that I need someone to do for me on a daily basis.

There was always the possibility that I could hire the attendant to perhaps come in the morning to dress me and to put me to bed at night. Ideally such an attendant would be “live-in” but that would ruin our privacy and naturally strain the relationship. There was the option that I could marry a girl in a wheelchair and we would continue to live with my parents or hers but that also seemed like a really bad option. We later knew of disabled couples who married but lived with parents. Although Rosie’s mom and my folks had always done their best to help us be as independent as possible, other people we knew struggled because their parents continued to treat them like children into adulthood. The one couple married couple we knew who lived with their parents ended up divorcing shortly later. Relationships fail for lots of reasons but I always presumed it was information that the “stay with the parents” solution to my problem was no good. Carol Nash and his wife Mary had a great marriage but they were both capable of taking care of themselves despite their disabilities.

I had come to the conclusion that I would never seek a serious romantic relationship with another handicapped person. Perhaps it was an excuse to help me deal with the realization that I was never going to end up with Rosie. But I really think it was the fact that I was older and more mature and really thinking about my future and not being able to envision it working out with another girl in a wheelchair.

After the prom, Cheryl and I exchanged some love letters and we had a really nice day at the class picnic where we went off for a stroll through Garfield Park by ourselves for a while. No repeat kiss but it was really nice. After graduation we talked by phone couple of times and talked about getting together again but it just didn’t happen. It seemed to me it would been dishonest for me to pursue a relationship with her, knowing up front that it was destined to go nowhere. Keep in mind this was almost 2 years prior to Ella Vinci illustrating up to me that I can have a really fun and fulfilling platonic relationship with a woman. So the end result was I never spoke to Cheryl again. But I think I did see her once…

It was many years later I was at a rock concert at Market Square Arena. I saw a girl in a wheelchair sitting one section over from me. She was really good looking and I thought I should try to go over and talk to her just for the hell of it. In fact after the concert I went past her, made eye contact, smiled but never said anything. As I did so I thought she looked kind of familiar. I was on the elevator headed down to my car in the parking garage of MSA when it suddenly occurred to me why she was so familiar. It was very likely my prom date and first kiss Cheryl Fayette. What an idiot I had been for not realizing it first and saying something to her. I’m not 100% sure it was her but I’m pretty sure.

So what about one in the morning one sleepless night last week I decided to Facebook search and Google search Cheryl Fayette. And I found her on Facebook! Her profile picture was definitely her. She was still a very attractive woman. As is usual when I reconnect with old girlfriends, the first thing I notice is that they have a boyfriend or a husband. There was a guy with her in the photo and I didn’t think it was a brother. In fact I later determined it was not.

Her posts on Facebook were not public and the three photos that were visible all were posted over the course of about 2 months in 2013. I could see her other Facebook friends and found the guy who was in the profile picture with her. His Facebook posts were public but they also ended sometime in 2013. Many of his posts thank God that he was alive yet another day. Some people wrote to him asking “How is Cheryl?” but there was no reply from him. There was nothing in his timeline newer than 2013. I got a familiar suspicious feeling so I turned to Google.

A search for “Cheryl Fayette Indianapolis” on Google produced this as the number one result.

http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/indystar/obituary.aspx?n=cheryl-a-fayette&pid=166294873

It is an Indianapolis Star obituary published August 7, 2013 saying that Cheryl A. Fayette 55, Indianapolis, died Aug. 3, 2013. It told the time of the visitation and services but gave no other information. In 2013 I was 58. If Cheryl was a freshman when I was a senior that would put three years between us so the age was right. It had to be her given the abrupt cutoff of her Facebook information at the same time.

After I found out she had died I told my dad “I found out the first girl I ever kissed died in 2013”. To try to lighten the moment he said “You killed her”. I laughed and said “It must’ve been a slow and painful death. It took over 40 years.” We both just laughed.

Anyway, I really don’t know who the guy was in her photo but it’s obvious from looking at it that he was someone special to her and vice versa. I’m happy for her on that account that she had love in her life even if her last name did not change which I presume means she did not marry. It was similar to the relief knowing that Rosie had eventually got married and had a child even though she died at an early age as she knew she would.

But somehow I can’t help but feeling that I missed an opportunity for a lifelong friendship. Had I known what Ella and Joyce and Judy and others have taught me over the years about the rewards of platonic friendship I might not have dismissed so quickly a continuing relationship with Cheryl.

I really should have googled her much sooner.

Farewell Food

Before I stnotes forart on this blog installment, I’m going to try something a little bit new. Every time you see this little Facebook logo, you can click on it to see a post that I put on Facebook as these events were occurring. Now on with our regularly scheduled story…

When I left off in a previous entry on May 2, I had told the story of my decades long problems with swallowing, I said that I was going to call the doctor for an appointment to talk about the possibility of getting a G-tube. In this lengthy blog post I will talk about what I went through to get the G-tube and the complication of having a urinary infection that sent me to the hospital in the middle of all this.

I did call on my doctor that day and made an appointment for Thursday, May 12 with my primary care physician Dr. Jeffrey Kyrouac.

 

G-tubes and Breathless and Lawsuits… Oh My

I mentioned that it was a very stressful time for me with my new wheelchair, new caregivers coming and going every few weeks, and the stress of not being able to eat very well. That stress all multiplied on Wednesday, May 4 when I got an email from a photographer threatening to sue me for copyright violation. I had used a photo of the Indianapolis skyline at night as the background for my 2013 computer-generated ray-traced Christmas card. The short version of the story is that both I and my lawyer tried to negotiate a settlement and it went nowhere. The guy eventually filed suit in federal court and as I write this blog post in late June we are about to file our response. My lawyer since I have a good chance of a “fair use” defense. When the complete case is over with I will blog about it extensively but for now it’s best if I don’t discuss the case. I just mentioned here to give you an idea of the added stress that I’ve been having.

I went to the doctor on the 12th expecting to discuss with him what my options were short of actually getting the G-tube. His attitude was that I had been using all my options for the past 20 years and now there was only one option and that was to get a G-tube. The really wasn’t any debate about it. It was a tiny bit of a wake-up call for me. His attitude was like “Hell yes you need a G-tube” and I suddenly realized “Hell yes I DO need a G-tube. What was I thinking?” So he referred me to a gastroenterologist.

The next day was Friday the 13th and in some ways it was a bad luck day. Part of my morning routine is after getting a bed bath we occasionally hook me up in the Hoyer lift and sit me on the toilet. I hang in the sling for a few minutes and when I’ve done my business I call for dad or my home health aide to get me. But for some reason on this particular day I was hanging in an awkward position and I couldn’t get enough breath to call them. Sometimes it can take as long as 10 minutes for me to finish so dad wasn’t concerned. The new caregiver had no experience to know how long I might be. Finally after about 15 minutes she came to check on me and I whispered “Get my dad”. When he got there I whispered “I can’t breathe”. He rushed me back to bed and I was okay after that. It wasn’t that I really could not breathe. I wasn’t at risk of passing out. But I could only take rapid shallow breaths.

I’ve heard that when someone is crucified they die of asphyxiation. Hanging with your arms up in the air like that makes it difficult or impossible to breathe. After this experience I have no doubt that this is possible. Like I said, I wasn’t in any real danger. However it was extremely scary and frustrating to be in such a helpless situation. The new protocol for me sitting on the toilet is that dad or my caregiver checks on me every five minutes.

The rest of the day went really well. I went to see the new “Captain America: Civil War” movie with my friends Rich and Kathy. It was the first time they had taken me anywhere in my new wheelchair and my new van. That all went really well. Of course it was a little awkward not having done it before but it all went okay. I thought it was one of the best comic book action movies I’ve ever seen.

 

The Date is Set

On Tuesday, May 17 I had my appointment with the gastroenterologist. After the initial shock that we really were going to do the G-tube, in the days leading up to this appointment found a sense of relief. It had been so difficult for me to eat that the idea that I wasn’t going to have to struggle to do so anymore had somehow overridden any worries or dread that I had about the procedure itself. It seemed strange to be looking forward to a surgical procedure which I had been avoiding for almost 20 years.

I have never been to this doctor before. His name is Dr. Mazen Alsatie. He’s a very likable guy who tended to joke around a lot which puts you at ease. I had had another gastroenterologist one time I referred to as “my asshole doctor” not because of his specialty but because of his terrible bedside manner. I was glad that this new doctor was much nicer.

I explained to him the difficulty that we could probably not get an endoscope down my throat. The normal procedure for putting in such a G-tube is a put a scope down your throat into your stomach and then that guides them were to poke a hole that your abdomen and into the stomach. Also expressed my concerns about general anesthetic which can be dangerous for me. He said he needed to talk to another doctor about my case and he would be right back “If I’m not back in a few hours, check with the nurse… Just kidding. I will be back in a minute.” Like I said he is a jokester.

He did return in just a few minutes. The plan that he came up with was to have a radiologist do the procedure outpatient at St. Vincent. I would have to drink some barium the night before. He even suggested I might go to the hospital the night before and they would give me the barium using a nasogastric tube. This is a tube that they stick up your nose and then down into your throat and into your stomach. It can be used temporarily for feeding or anything else they need to put in your stomach like barium for a procedure. We got a call the next day from the radiology department at St. Vincent and I set up my appointment for 10:30 AM on Thursday, May 26 which was just a little over a week away. We concluded that I could drink the barium normally so I would not need to go into the hospital the day before. At least that was the plan at that point. Things would soon change.

I spent the next several days trying to negotiate the copyright lawsuit unsuccessfully. Let me rephrase that… I wasn’t trying to negotiate unsuccessfully. I was trying to negotiate… However I was unsuccessful. On Friday, May 20 I got a visit from my friend and former caregiver Rick Ruiz. He had not seen my new wheelchair and it was fun to get caught up with him. While he was here that afternoon I started noticing some pain in my bladder. After he left I tried calling my urologist and ended up leaving a message on the nurse’s voicemail. It was about 3:30 or 4 o’clock so I wasn’t very hopeful that I would hear back from them.

The next morning when I had not heard anything, I decided I should go to the immediate care center over in Speedway to see if they could get me an antibiotic. It’s a nice little facility at the end of Main Street. It’s normally very easy to get to however this happened to be opening day of qualifying for the 500. We decided to go a little bit of the back way and went on the highway to 10th Street and then back to Speedway. As it turned out there wasn’t any traffic there but it was still a good idea to long way around. We got in quickly and I met with a nurse practitioner and explained that I had recurring infections. I had brought a sample for them to test and it looked very nasty. I told her that my urologist usually gives me Levaquin 500 mg. It made her job easy because I knew exactly what was wrong and what I needed to fix it. I told her it reminded me of the time my mother took my sister Carol to the doctor when she was about five or six years old. Carol said “Mommy why do we have to go to the doctor if you already know what’s wrong with me.” My mom said “They won’t let me write prescriptions.” Mouse up

The next day on Sunday I felt worse. I had a rough night Saturday night and slept in till afternoon. I just sat around and watched the second day of qualifying for the 500 on TV. I began to get concerned because I had not been eating well that this infection was getting me harder than usual. I told dad early Monday morning that I thought maybe we need to go to the hospital sometime that day. The problem was that dad had been suffering with a nasty case of shingles for several weeks. He had finally gotten a doctor’s appointment for Monday and I hated to see him miss it. I told him he should go ahead and keep his doctor’s appointment and then we would go to the hospital afterwards. Meanwhile that morning the urology nurse finally returned our call. Dad told her I was doing worse and was thinking about going to the hospital. She said since I was getting worse that was probably a good idea.

Monday, May 23 I rode with dad to his doctor’s appointment and then we went on to St. Vincent. We got to the hospital about 3 PM. I gave them a urine sample and they drew blood and hooked up an IV. Of course you spend forever waiting on things in the ER. I managed to connect to St. Vincent’s free Wi-Fi while waiting in the ER. You could not get a cell signal but at least you could get Wi-Fi. I posted a quick message on Facebook. It was several hours until we knew what was going on. They concluded that the infection had not gone systemic. That was one of my main concerns. Because I had not been eating very well I didn’t know what was going to happen with this infection. They decided it was best to admit me which is what I really wanted at that point. It was after 9 PM when they finally got me to a room.

We had a little bit of a logistics problem getting me to the room from the ER. When dad goes somewhere where he has to walk long distances, he needs to take our little three wheeled gogo scooter that we bought for mom years ago. So we had me on a gurney, dad in the gogo scooter, and my empty wheelchair all needing to go from the ER to the fifth floor. The nurse requested 2 people from transport to assist with moving my wheelchair. But somehow the message got mangled. They sent one guy to push the gurney and then another guy came along with an empty push wheelchair. When he saw the first guy taking me on the gurney he thought they didn’t need him.

I wasn’t really anxious to have the wheelchair itself. I would not need it for many days. But sitting in the wheelchair was the bag containing my CPAP machine and also my special call button. For those of you who have read stories of some of my previous hospital visits, you know that I have a little push button on the end of a wire was made for me by the rehab engineering people at St. Vincent perhaps 30 years ago. I just take it with me anytime I need to go to the hospital. It plugs into their call system and it has a really light touch that I can use. Dad didn’t want to leave until I had the call system set up and was all settled in. Eventually the nurse from the ER who had been taking care of me brought the wheelchair up herself. I guess if you want something done right you do have to do it yourself.

We plugged in the call button and set up my CPAP machine. Dad didn’t get to leave until about 9:30 or 10 PM.

 

Too Many Damn Rules

Dad and I have a running joke whose punchline is “There are too many damn rules”. It usually comes up when we are watching a football game and the referee calls some really obscure penalty. Dad always says “There are too many damn rules.” He wants to just let them play the damn game. We quote that line and are so many other circumstances that it has got to be a cliché. Who knew that I would run into it at the hospital that night.

When you use a CPAP machine that you bring from home, it is supposed to be checked out and set up by someone from respiratory therapy. The therapist had stopped by just minutes after I arrived in my room. At that point the CPAP was still with the wheelchair down at the ER department. When the wheelchair finally arrived, the RN who was assigned to me went ahead and set up the CPAP and put it on me.

I explained to him that I needed a humidifier in the oxygen line. The way it works is that there is a receptacle in the wall that feeds out oxygen. You put a little container full of water in that line and the oxygen bubbles through the water to human it. The oxygen line then plugs into the hose on the CPAP to provide humidified oxygen in addition to the pressurized room air that the CPAP provides. That’s the way I’ve done it for years at home. When I first started on CPAP 30 years ago, the humidifiers that you would use with a CPAP were not very reliable. You could not control the amount of humidity. Even though newer CPAP machines have sophisticated temperature and humidity controls, when I replaced my machine several years ago they offered me a heater/humidifier but I didn’t think I needed it. My nurse, a really nice guy named Pete, had no problem hooking up the bubbler in the oxygen line connecting everything like I wanted.

Then about midnight the gal from respiratory therapy returned and looked at the CPAP set up. She said we could not have the bubbler in the oxygen line. She said that there was a risk that the back pressure from the CPAP could cause the bubbler to explode. She wasn’t just talking about it springing a leak and squirting water. She said something to the effect of “we don’t want anyone getting hurt” as if it was going to shower the room with shrapnel. The whole idea was totally ridiculous. Yet she insisted that it was a firm “hospital policy” with no room for negotiation. So she removed the bubbler and connected the oxygen line directly into the CPAP with no humidification. I figured I would be okay. Sometimes my humidifier at home dries out and I don’t notice it for a day or two.

My decision to go ahead and use the oxygen without the humidifier would come back to haunt me later. The respiratory therapist I had for the second night came up with another silly rule. I had to have an oxygen meter connected to my finger anytime I had my CPAP on. She wrapped it around my finger so tight that it made my finger throb. I eventually got the nurse to loosen it up to where it was comfortable. The irony is if I have on my oxygen and my CPAP my oxygen level is always usually in the high 90s. It’s more likely that I would need the oxygen meter when the CPAP was off but they don’t care about that. The rule is you only need it when your oxygen is on. Fortunately I only had to do that one night. None of the other respiratory people seem to care about it the rest of the week.

There are too many damn rules.

 

Staying Connected

I had a reasonably comfortable night in the hospital the first night. The following morning, dad had an appointment of his own. In addition to his problems with shingles, the also was concerned he was having some gallbladder problems. The doctor scheduled him for an ultrasound on the morning of Tuesday, May 24. He had that procedure and then came to the hospital to visit me. He brought my laptop and I was able to get online. It also gave me the opportunity to catch up on some TV shows that I had downloaded and some YouTube videos I wanted to watch. And of course it gave me the opportunity to keep in touch with everyone by Facebook.

Not only does my laptop give me access to the Internet and anything that I might have stored on the laptop, I can use Team Viewer remote access software to log into my desktop at home and get access to anything on that machine. While most people use some sort of webmail to access their email, I’m kind of old-fashioned and I use Microsoft Outlook and a POP3 access to download all of my email to my desktop machine. The disadvantage is that if Outlook is running on my PC and captures the email, there’s no way to access it from a webpage. I had deliberately left my desktop running but forgot to mention to my dad that it was intentional. He had shut it down when he got home. While that meant I could not access my desktop computer, it also meant that Outlook wasn’t running so if I accessed webmail then unread emails would still be there. I was anxious to see if there was email from my lawyer. The guy who was suing me for copyright infringement had said that he was going to file the lawsuit either Monday the 23rd or Tuesday the 24th depending on which threatening email you believed. I was able to contact my lawyer by webmail and tell him I was in the hospital. He said that my opponent had filed several lawsuits on Monday but mine was not among them. It turned out that he did not file the suit until a couple of weeks later.

 

Input and Output

You see a number of doctors over the course of the day. There is generally an intern or resident who is directly assigned to you. He or she then reports to the chief resident and in turn they both report to an attending physician. They all confirmed that I was doing well. The infection had not spread and they seem confident that while I was still in the hospital we could proceed with the G-tube procedure perhaps as soon as Wednesday the 25th.

I was concerned that I wasn’t urinating very much however they said that my blood work indicated that my kidneys were functioning okay. With the IV constantly running I expected to be putting out more fluid from the other end. I don’t know where it was going but we were certainly putting in more than was coming out.

At one point they sent in a nice young woman who was from the speech therapy department. Her actual goal however was to investigate how well I could swallow. I gave her my complete history of swallowing. She had me tried to swallow ice chips, applesauce, and to drink water. She came to a conclusion that I had already known for a long time. I can’t swallow worth a damn. Her recommendation ended up being that I have absolutely nothing by mouth. Although I didn’t necessarily agree that I could have nothing by mouth, it meant that I would not have to drink the barium. Drinking barium is a nasty business even when you can swallow well. The more I thought about it, the more I liked the idea of using a nasogastric tube. So the good part about her conclusions were that we were definitely getting the NG tube. The plan was that they would put it in about 10 PM Tuesday night and give me the barium. The G-tube procedure would be Wednesday morning.

One of the other issues that concerned me was I wasn’t getting my normal medication. I was getting by digoxin heart medication and my Flomax. But I was not getting my isosorbide which is a heart medication I take three times a day nor was I getting bumetanide which is a mild diuretic. They said the reason was that my blood pressure was a bit low and that you should not have either of those with low blood pressure. Usually my blood pressure is a typical 120/80 or thereabouts. They were getting top numbers barely above 100/70 something.

There was also an attempt on several occasions to give me some sort of injection that was a blood thinner. They said they were worried about blood clots. I guess it would’ve been from lying around in bed. I tried to explain to them I was going to have a G-tube surgical procedure very soon. I didn’t want to show up in surgery and have the surgeon all of a sudden notice I had been getting blood thinner and say “What the hell I can’t do this if he’s on blood thinner!” Every time I refused the blood thinner shots, I asked them to verify if it was okay to take the shot given that I’m scheduled for minor surgery in the next day or two. I never did get a reply. But they did not give me the shot so I didn’t worry about it. Even after the G-tube was inserted a couple of days later, they still wanted to give me the blood thinner. I continued to refuse because I knew in a day or two I was going to be putting on my back brace. The way it digs into me in various places I would’ve been a bruised up mess.

 

Names and Accents

Tuesday evening after the shift change I was pleased to see I had the same nurse that I had the first night. I said to him “Yesterday you said your name was Pete. Today I’m going to call you ‘Re-Pete'”. I also told a number of the other nurses the same joke. They all liked it. Unfortunately Pete had some bad news for me. We were not going to do the NG tube Tuesday night because we were not going to do the G-tube Wednesday morning. Somehow I had been misinformed and it was all pushed back to do the procedure on Thursday at my originally scheduled time. Other than the disappointment that everything was still pushed back until Thursday, my second night was uneventful.

The morning of Wednesday, May 25 I was visited by the usual parade of doctors starting with the early year resident, followed by the chief resident and eventually the attending. My attending was a woman named Dr. Maryam Massoumi. She is sort of an exotic looking woman with a fascinating accent that reminds me a great deal of one of my favorite actresses Shohreh Aghdashloo. I never have been able to pronounce the actress’s name. The first time I saw her was when she played a terrorist in season 4 of the TV series “24“. Mostly my doctor sounded like the actress but she actually resembled her a little bit. You can click on the links of their name to see photos and biographies of them. The actress always plays parts where she’s doing something sneaky. Most recently she has played a politician in the sci-fi series “The Expanse” where she is very sneaky. Her sultry voice makes you believe whenever she’s saying. That same voice coming from your doctor has a rather soothing effect. I got so interested in accent that I eventually later in the week asked her where she was from. It sounded Iranian or Persian (approximately the same thing) which is where the actress is from. However I didn’t want to say to her “Hey are you Iranian?” and then it turns out she is from some other Middle Eastern country that is a mortal enemy of Iran.

It was late in the week when I finally figured out a way to inquire. I told her outright that her accent had a soothing quality to it and I wondered what kind of accent it was. She said it was Persian and I successfully suppressed my urge to shout “YES! I nailed it!” I do think I probably said something like “I thought perhaps that was it.” She said she had spent lots of time in Brussels. If I had thought to Google her or look her up on the St. Vincent physician directory I would’ve seen where it says “Languages: English, French, Farsi.” In case you haven’t watched enough movies or TV shows about the Middle East, Farsi is spoken in Iran.

She said that she was concerned that my infection might not be entirely confined to my urinary tract. She wanted to do a chest x-ray just to make sure I did not have some sort of pneumonia hiding out. I had been told that after they put in the NG tube, they would need to do an x-ray to make sure that it was in the proper place. I suggested we save the trouble of two x-rays, put in the NG tube, and then do one x-ray for both. She agreed. It turned out that was a good idea for more than one reason. I wasn’t scheduled to get the NG tube until about 10 PM that night however to double up the x-rays we went ahead and tried to put the NG tube in the morning. We had difficulty getting the NG tube in and it took several attempts. If we had waited until that night we might not have got it done it all.

 

Pushing Your Limits

I’m sorry I don’t remember the name of my daytime nurse but she was really nice and did a good job. She tried to insert the NG tube three different times but it just wouldn’t go. One of the problems is that they thought I needed to be sitting upright in the hospital bed as high as I could go. I’m not used to sitting up without my back brace on. It makes me very slumped without the brace supporting me and that also makes it difficult to breathe sometimes. Naturally you’re going to gag if they stick a tube up your nose and down your throat. But I got pretty messed up and ended up sucking some saliva into my lungs. We had to give up after three tries.

Shortly after that, the girl arrived with the portable x-ray machine. We went ahead and did the chest x-ray even though we did not yet have the NG tube in place. X-ray machines these days do not use x-ray film. They are all digital. They have a large metal and plastic plate which looks like the plate that they used to use to hold the x-ray film. I don’t know if it has sensors built into it or if somehow it reflects the x-rays back towards the machine or how it works exactly. There’s no cable running from the plate to the x-ray machine so if it is a sensor not a reflector it must be wirelessly connected.

Again they wanted me to sit upright as straight as I could. She raised the bed as high as I could stand it. I did not think about the fact that then we needed to jam the plate behind me. I had already leaned forward as far as I could and then I had to go further still. Dad was there and he helped her stuff it behind my back. That was uncomfortable but not as bad as when they tried to take the plate out. As they leaned me forward to pull it out, I strained a muscle in my ribs on the left side. I don’t think I cracked a rib but I came awfully close to doing so. If I had done it on the way in, the x-ray would show whether or not I cracked a rib. But the sprain came as they were taking it out.

 

Fourth Time is the Charm

After our three failed attempts to get the NG tube up my nose and down my throat they said they were going to send up someone from radiology to attempt to do it. However there was another nurse across the hall who had more experience and she agreed to give it a try. This time we did not sit me up as straight. Given my sore ribs I didn’t think I could take it. She also used a slightly smaller tube than the previous nurse had used. While it was very uncomfortable and I did gag a lot, we ended up getting it down okay. I told the other nurse that she had no shame in her three failed attempts. The other nurse was cheating using a smaller tube and having me lie down where I was more comfortable. The truth is I think perhaps the first nurse did actually have it most of the way in during one or more of her attempts. But I was gagging so hard and aspirating saliva that it felt like it was in the wrong place. I think if she had gone ahead and I was able to cough up some spit we would’ve been okay.

After we had the tube in, they had to bring back the x-ray machine to do a second x-ray and see if it was in the proper place. I asked if they could do it with me lying flat rather than sitting up and they agreed. It turns out the NG tube was okay. Also the previous x-ray showed no problems with my lungs so that was good news.

I had hoped that once we had the barium in me, we would be able to remove the NG tube. Unfortunately that was not the case. They had a very good reason for wanting to leave it in. During the procedure of putting in the G-tube in my stomach, they wanted to use the NG tube to blow my stomach up full of air. That would push it forward against my abdomen wall. Then they can poke a hole into me through the abdomen and directly into the stomach.

Leaving the NG tube in was going to complicate things overnight. The mask on my CPAP uses a system called “nasal pillows”. They are the rubber things that stick into your nose about 3/8 of an inch. I wasn’t sure that I would be able to get the CPAP mask on my nose with the NG tube sticking out my left nostril. I laid there thinking about different ways we might do it. I thought maybe we could plug up my nostril that had the NG tube and tape over half of the CPAP mask just have it blow in one side of my nose.

While waiting for 10 PM to roll around, I tried to take a nap but without the CPAP on I kept having apnea attacks about every 60 to 90 seconds so I really didn’t get any rest. When we put the barium in at 10 PM it all went very smoothly. We got the respiratory therapist to come down and try to put the mask on me. They had taped the NG tube to the front of my nostril but we removed the tape and repositioned it off to the side. We then put the mask on and it did fairly well. It was leaking quite a bit but the CPAP has built-in sensors to maintain the proper air pressure even if there are leaks in the system. The leaks were not so distracting that I could not sleep with it. It went pretty well throughout the night.

 

Last-Minute Setback Averted

It’s Thursday morning May 26 and it’s the day to have the G-tube procedure. I wanted to leave my CPAP on as long as possible so that I was well rested and fresh for the procedure. My original appointment was for 10 AM in outpatient but that was my arrival time. I later learned that the actual time for the procedure was supposed to be about noon. However they later came in and said it had been pushed to 2 PM. At one point I tried taking the CPAP off and I had a real problem breathing without it. The combination of the irritation of the NG tube and spending three nights without humidified oxygen had messed up my throat really bad. Every time I tried to breathe it felt like my throat was closing up. I got really worried because I didn’t think I would be able to take the CPAP with me during the procedure. If I could not find a way to wean myself off of it by the time of the procedure, we would have to cancel.

After about five minutes with the CPAP off I had to have them put it back on me again. Shortly thereafter dad arrived. I kept doing experiments when I would try breathing through my mouth without using the pressure of the CPAP. Over the course of the rest of the morning I gradually started breathing a little easier. It was a good thing that they had pushed the procedure to 2 PM instead of the original 12 noon start time. I needed that time to get my lungs going again. I had told the nurse I was having difficulty getting off of the CPAP. She set up a regular oxygen nasal cannula for me to use oxygen when I took off the CPAP.

Sometime around 1 PM I was able to switch from the CPAP to the straight oxygen. One of the things that helped was that someone from respiratory therapy department came down for a visit. She agreed to let me use the humidifier in the oxygen line. More on that story later. I think the humidity and just getting wider awake and swallowing a little bit got my throat in better shape. I was able to keep the nasal cannula oxygen on during the trip to the procedure and throughout the procedure and the way back afterwards. By the time it was all over with I was breathing normally but it was nice to have the oxygen just in case.

 

Time for Surgery

They eventually came to get me at about 1:30 PM. Dad was able to go down with me. They rolled me into a pre-op area and the doctor who was going to do the procedure came out and had a conversation with us. He did a great job of explaining everything that he was going to do.

One of the questions I had had from the beginning was “How do you get the stomach to stick to the abdomen wall once you get the tube in. He explained that there would actually be a couple of stitches. He said they were like little plastic T-shaped gadgets that holds tags on to clothing when you first purchase it. With dad and I being more familiar with construction then retail clothing, we said “You mean like a Molly bolt”. He explained that the stitches would come out after 10-14 days. I asked him if a visiting nurse could do it. Perhaps the nurse from Acme Homecare could remove them. I knew I would need to be recertified before my home health aide could return and I would be getting a visit from their nurse. He said possibly yes. I would also need to follow up with my regular doctor and he might be able to do it.

He explained that the reason for the barium was so they could see where your transverse colon is. They have to make sure it’s out of the way. I told him that I had previously had 12 inches taken out of my descending colon and that that probably repositioned where my transverse colon was. He said that they would inject my abdomen with local aesthetic and I would not feel a thing. I told him my old standing joke where I used to think that “local anesthetic” meant that it was produced here in Indianapolis by Eli Lilly.

He said that they would give me a mild sedative to keep me calm. I told him I wanted the absolute minimum because I was concerned about my breathing. I explained that if something happened in an emergency they would not be able to intubate me in my mouth because my mouth doesn’t open. I explained anytime I was intubated they had to do it through the nose. He said that he was going to give me Versed which is a type of anesthetic that makes you forget. After the procedure was over I am 99.9% sure that I remember all of it. There was a running conversation throughout it and I don’t remember any gaps. But then again if it is supposed to make you forget, who knows when I missed. I only recall feeling the tiniest bit groggy.

He told my dad that the procedure would only take 15-20 minutes but by the time they rolled you into the operating room, get you transferred to the table, shave your hairy chest, drape you, get all of the equipment in place it actually took a little more than twice that. I told them that I recalled being in an OR that was this one or one just like it before. When I had been in the hospital for my bowel resection, they had to put a central line into my juggler and had used x-ray assistance to do so. They told me there were actually 4 rooms just like this one and I would have been in one of them for such a procedure.

The procedure itself was painless. I felt a tiny little stick of the needle for the first shot of lidocaine. Sort of like in the dentist when you feel the first shot but none of the others. Apparently my intestines were already pushed out of the way so they had no trouble getting to my stomach and getting it blown up into the proper position. You can feel the pressure when he would poke holes into me but it didn’t hurt. Also after everything had worn off I did not have any pain whatsoever.

They rolled me back out to the waiting area and went to get dad. He was a little bit concerned about the length of time but I explained to him the procedure itself did indeed take about 15 minutes but it was all the stuff getting ready that took the extra time. Because I really hadn’t been sedated, they didn’t need me to stick around for “recovery time” right you would after some surgeries. They wanted to take me for an ultrasound after the procedure. I suggested to dad that he should go get something to eat and meet me back at the room later.

I seem to have lots of bad luck with the transport people. The first evening we couldn’t get anyone to bring my wheelchair up from the ER. The guy who was going to take me to the ultrasound lab instead took me to MRI. He delivered me to their waiting area and handed them my chart. I had seen the signs on the wall saying it was MRI but I figured perhaps they shared a common holding area. He was gone less than five minutes when he returned and said “I took you to the wrong place.” I eventually got to the ultrasound place okay.

The guy who did the ultrasound was really nice. The way I was laying I could see the screen and so I asked him some questions along the way. He pointed out my stomach, liver, kidneys, etc. We also talked about other things. I don’t know how the conversation got around to gambling. Perhaps we had started talking about sports and from there I said that I occasionally bet NFL games. It turns out this guy uses the same gambling websites that I use for poker and sports. I said to him “Either you have a really good poker face or you didn’t see anything shocking. At no time did you suddenly gasp and say ‘my God look at that!'” He said he didn’t really see anything except of course that my insides are kind of rearranged and that I have an enormous bladder which I had already told him to watch out for. He said there was a tiny bit of fluid loose in my abdomen but it wasn’t anything to worry about. I’ve always wondered if there wasn’t something extra sloshing around inside me so I wasn’t surprised. I could write a whole blog on that topic.

When I returned to my room I got online and posted a brief newsflash on Facebook saying that the procedure was over and went well. Then I posted a follow-up with more details. By the way they did take out the NG tube once the procedure was over with. I don’t recall if they took it out in the radiology department or if I got it out when I returned to my room. But it was a relief to be free of that.

 

Not so Many Rules after All

I mentioned that just prior to going for my procedure, a respiratory therapist dropped by and put the bubbler in my oxygen line. I said there was more to that story so here goes…

Somewhere around Tuesday or Wednesday I was visited by a nursing supervisor who asked if I had any complaints about the care I was getting. I told her that all the people had been really great. She specifically asked if anyone stood out and I told her that Pete/Repeat was an especially nice guy but everyone had been wonderful. As a last thought, I said to her “I’m generally not a complainer but since you asked my opinion… I do have one bit of a complaint.” I told her the story about the respiratory therapist who said that “hospital policy” was that you could not have a bubbler in your oxygen when used with a CPAP. I speculated with her as I had done every time I told the story. Probably someone had their CPAP cranked up too high, the little plastic bubble bottle was defective, it popped open, the lawyers got involved, and now we have a stupid rule. She took note of everything that I said. She was unaware of such a policy.

Now on Thursday just before I went to my procedure, I was visited by the respiratory therapist. She asked me about the humidifier bubbler and I told her the whole story. She said that she had never heard of such a policy. She put the bubbler in after getting permission from her supervisor. A little bit later in the day, that supervisor stopped by and talk to me about it. She too had never heard of such a policy and she was a supervisor! I told her that I had talked to the nursing supervisor about it even though I don’t generally raise a fuss. The respiratory supervisor said that the nursing supervisor had sent out an email that had gone up and down the chain of command and gone to her own supervisor. That is the daytime respiratory therapy supervisor got email from her boss about this so-called policy that in fact did not exist.

I told her that this had occurred Monday night at about midnight. I did not get the name of the person that told me about this inflexible hospital policy. The supervisor told me she would talk to the night supervisor and try to figure out who had been on duty that evening and where these crazy ideas came from. I never did hear any more about it but it was kind of rewarding to think that somebody was going to get called in on the carpet and get a talk about making up rules. Perhaps she worked previously at a different hospital that had such a rule. Who knows.

I said throughout I don’t like to complain. Actually I do like to complain but I don’t like to raise a big stink if I don’t think there’s any chance of it doing any good. I did a lot of complaining to the nurses, on Facebook, friends and family. I just figured I was up against an entire hospital bureaucracy and wasn’t going to get any relief. I was wrong. I’m glad the nursing supervisor asked my opinion because I do like giving opinions :-). For once, speaking up against bureaucracy turned out to get results after all.

 

Tube Me, or Not Tube Me?

I will give you a “TMI” (too much information) warning at this point. If you don’t like to read about the somewhat personal, gross stuff you might want to skip this section.

One of my big concerns throughout the hospital stay was that I did not seem to be urinating very much despite the fact that I had an IV of saline, D5, and antibiotics running 24/7. At one point they also noticed my potassium was too low. Giving you potassium by IV is always tricky because it burns your veins going in. If they can get it diluted with other IV stuff it’s not too bad but if they have to give you a lot of it, it can be quite painful. Anyway it seemed to me and everyone else that they were putting lots of fluid into me but not much was coming out.

At one point they did an in-and-out catheter and got over 1000 mL of urine. From time to time they would do an ultrasound on my bladder that would measure the volume of liquid. One time in the hospital previously they noted that I had 700 mL and I didn’t even feel a tiny bit full. Throughout this experience it was common for them to measure 800 or 900. They told that a normal person would feel like they were ready to explode at 900. I barely felt anything at that level.

After they took the 1000 out, it took a long time for my bladder to fill up again. They kept measuring it with the scanner and it would gradually increase. But I never felt like I had to go much. Somewhere along the way they finally called in a urologist. Up until that time I had been treated by internal medicine doctors and not specifically urologists. Sometime on Friday, the day after the G-tube procedure, they tried another in-and-out catheterization but it would not go in.

In addition to my severe scoliosis (curvature of my spine) both of my hips have been dislocated for many years. In fact one x-ray revealed the ball part of the ball and socket of one of my hips has been grinding in my pelvis for so long that it has ground itself a new socket. That was in x-ray maybe 20 or 30 years ago. God knows what kind of mess my hips are in at this point. So that, combined with my freakishly large bladder means my internal anatomy is pretty messed up. The path into my bladder has a lot of curves and makes it difficult to put in a catheter.

In addition to the urinary issues, when you pump strong antibiotics into you over a long period of time, diarrhea is a natural side effect. You end up killing all the good digestive bacteria along with the bad stuff. For the last couple of days of my hospital stay I was extremely, extremely loose. Fortunately I was always able to get on the bedpan in time.

At one point the urologists called for a cart to be sent from the O.R. that they described as “cysto-to-go”. It sounds like the name of a fast food restaurant for urologists 🙂 Basically it’s just a portable cart with a urinary cystoscope and everything you would need to go with it. I was visited by a pair of nurse practitioners from urology and I talked them out of the idea of anchoring a Foley catheter. That was early on Friday. However late Friday evening a urologist who is one of the partners of my usual urologist came in. He talked me into going ahead and putting in the Foley since he wanted to do it using the scope. I told him about the difficulty my regular urologist has always had catheterizing me. He usually does it using a guidewire. Anyway late Friday night he brought in the cysto-to-go and did the procedure. It went reasonably well and it was good to know I was going to be really empty for the rest of my stay in the hospital. I probably should have let them do it sooner.

It’s now safe to continue reading if you want to avoid the gross stuff.

 

Tools and Talent Is All It Takes

After the G-tube procedure, they had attached a low-power suction tube onto it to make sure there wasn’t any drainage or bleeding. On Friday, the day after the procedure, they disconnected the suction and started pumping nutrition using a continuous feed pump. Throughout that day they gradually increased the rate and if that went okay (which it did) they would start doing what is called a bolus feeding they have a large syringe of about 60 or 70 cc and just pump it in by hand.

They were talking like I could go home Saturday or Sunday. Saturday would’ve been okay but Sunday would’ve been tough because it was race day. The only time you can get in or out of my neighborhood on race day is during the race itself. If you’ve ever been in the hospital, you know that they never release you on any particular schedule. There’s always some last-minute form that needs to be signed or an IV that needs to be removed but the nurse is too busy to do it. Even if dad could get to me, the idea that we would get released and arrive home during the race was really unrealistic. Also because the race was sold out for the first time in decades, they were going to allow it to be shown live on local TV. I didn’t want to have to watch it recorded on the DVR because I was traveling during the race.

Before I can think about going home, we had to do some work on my back brace. Now that the G-tube was in place and there was no suction connected to it, we could experiment with putting the brace on me and decide where to cut the hole. Dad had brought a tape measure and a battery-powered drill. The drill have a large drill bit about an inch and a half in diameter. It’s the kind of drill bit that you would use to cut a hole for a doorknob. The one thing we didn’t have was a marking pen to mark the spot to drill. But we borrowed one from a nurse.

My back brace is in 2 sections, a front and a back piece. We slipped the back piece underneath me and then measured from each side how far it was left or right to the G-tube. Because we were measuring across my belly which was going to be inside the brace, the overall distance was slightly less than what it would’ve been with the front half of the brace on top of me. We needed to get the ratio of distances left or right and then measure the entire distance on the outside of the front half of the brace. As it turned out the tube was going to land within a half inch of dead center so there really wasn’t much math involved. And the distance across my chest was only about a half inch less than the outside measurement across the front of the brace.

The hole that we were going to cut would have to be a vertical slot about an inch and a half wide and maybe 3 or 4 inches tall. We start out with the brace on me very low. Throughout the day I gradually slip down inside of it and the brace rides up. So throughout the day the hole would move up relative to the G-tube. Dad took all of the measurements, got in his go-go scooter, went down to the van in the parking lot and cut the hole. When he brought it back it looked as though it was going to work perfectly.

 

The Mystery Pain Returns

On a few occasions over the years, I have gotten some mystery pains around my back in the shoulder blade area and in my chest around my ribs. It is an area where the top edge of my back brace puts the most pressure on me. It doesn’t hurt much during the day when the brace is on. It doesn’t hurt when I take the brace off. It only hurts hours later in the middle of the night. It feels like a cross between muscle cramps and a burning sensation sort of like heartburn. Most of the time when I’ve had it, it wasn’t too bad and it just went away. Probably my most memorable episode was in 2006 when I was in the hospital having intestinal surgery when my intestines ruptured. It was several days into the ordeal and I had pain that felt like heartburn. For various reasons they couldn’t give me Rolaids or Tums without specific doctor’s orders. But they already had orders that I could have morphine because of my surgery pain. So I had them give me a shot of morphine instead of an antacid. Here’s a link to a previous blog post about that. http://mylife.cyborg5.com/rolaids-vs-morphine/

There was another incident in 2014 when I woke up in the middle of the night with pretty bad chest pain. Although it did have a bit of a burning sensation associated with it, this felt more like real chest pain and it was very bad. I tried calling dad but for some reason he was sleeping especially sound and I couldn’t wake him up. After about a half hour the pain went away. If it had persisted and/or I had gotten him awake I would’ve called 911. A week or two later I had it again in the middle of the night and although it let up for a while, by morning it was back again and pretty bad. This was May 1, 2014. On that occasion I did end up going to the hospital in an ambulance. They checked all of my cardiac enzymes and EKG etc. and said there was nothing wrong. I spent one night in the hospital and went home the next day.

Unfortunately I’m one of those people who watches too many medical TV shows. On several shows I’ve seen them talk about something called “crush syndrome”. It’s whenever they rescue someone at a collapsed building or someone who got buried in wet concrete that solidified too quickly and stuff like that. They say that the pressure on the person’s body causes toxins to be built up in the tissue and then when they relieve the pressure and the blood flow returns, all of those toxins come pouring out into the bloodstream and they can be really dangerous. It got me to thinking that perhaps the pressure of wearing this tight back brace all day long make something weird build up inside me and then when it finally cuts loose I get the burning pain. But if the TV shows are accurate, there’s always a race against time to quickly give the patient whatever they need to get rid of the toxic stuff immediately. My painful situation is always delayed hours after taking my brace off. My situation doesn’t really line up with the sort of emergency depicted on TV.

Because I have had one of my biggest instances of this particular pain while in the hospital to begin with, I’ve often wondered if it was because I was missing some of my regular medication. One medication I routinely miss while in the hospital is the daily dose of Zyrtec antihistamine. Even though it’s an over-the-counter medicine it’s probably only to be used “as needed” but my sinuses are such a disaster area that I take one every day religiously. I also use at least one sometimes two different kinds of nasal steroids. Maybe there such a thing as Zyrtec withdrawal. Perhaps I am getting some sort of minor version of crush syndrome but the Zyrtec counteracts it.

So anyway enough of the history of my weird chest pains, Friday night May 27 in the middle of the night, I started getting those familiar weird pains. In addition to not having any Zyrtec for several days, I had also been missing my isosorbide which is often prescribed for angina (i.e. chest pain). I don’t recall missing taking any isosorbide on previous occasions where I’ve had the pain. Anyway I asked the nurse for some Tylenol and he took some pills and crushed them up in a pill crushing gadget. He dissolved them in water and put them into my G-tube.

The Tylenol didn’t seem to help at all and if anything the pain was getting worse. On the proverbial scale of 1 to 10 it started out as a 2 or 3 and now was clearly up to about 5 and getting worse. This time I did not have standing orders for morphine. The nurse got in touch with whatever doctor was on call to try to get something stronger. They didn’t want to jump all the way to morphine so he prescribed a pill called Tramadol. Again they crushed it up in a pill crusher, dissolved it in water, and put it to the G-tube. After about 15 minutes I got this really warm rush feeling all over and the pain started to fade. This was about 7 AM. I posted on Facebook about four hours later that everything was okay.

My theory about so-called “crush syndrome” was fading rapidly. Although I did put my brace on earlier that day. It was only on me for about five minutes while my dad did a test fitting to figure out where to put the hole and then again to see that all was in the right place. I don’t believe we even tightened the brace all of the way and I did not even sit up with it on. Perhaps this particular pain was from the back strain when we did the x-ray. There had also been this week an incident where the nurses were sliding me up in the bed towards the head of the bed. You naturally slip down further into the bed whenever they raise your head up. They used to put something called a draw sheet completely underneath you. They could use it to yank you around. But for some reason the draw sheet was only beneath my rear end and part of my back. They needed the draw sheet to be clear up under my head and shoulders as well because I got kinked up pretty badly one time when they scooted me up. As I was describing all of this to a friend of mine several days later, she suggested that because it was a combination of muscle pain and a burning sensation perhaps it was a pinched nerve. I’m beginning to think that may be the thing. Although I didn’t have any more pain that Friday night/Saturday morning, it was the last incident of this particular problem.

 

Phenomenal Support

If you have happened to click on any of the Facebook links throughout this blog post, you have not only seen my thoughts in real time about the events I’m describing, so you have seen the tremendous number of well-wishers in the comments and even more “Likes” from friends, family, and even mild acquaintances who happen to be on my Facebook friends list. The prayer support was phenomenal.

It’s always been tradition that whenever I go to the hospital, I called my friend Margaret Arthur who is been in charge of the St. Gabriel prayer chain for as long as I could remember. If you have a prayer request, you give her a phone call and she calls 4 other leaders of the chain. They in turn each call one or two people who calls the next person and so on. I’m not sure how the chain is organized these days but at its height we had 30 or 40 people in the chain. Sadly Margaret passed away a couple of months ago. She was not only the “go to” person for prayer support, she was also a great source of information about everything that was going on in the parish. She would call me with frequent computer questions but in recent months her mind was not what it once was. Even when she was in good shape she was a little bit flaky 🙂 However she had to give up much of her volunteer work because she just wasn’t sharp enough to handle it anymore. I always knew what was going on in the parish, who was sick, who was in a nursing home, and who died. When I knew she was getting worse, I was worried that I would not know if she died because she was always my source of information about such things. Indeed when she did pass away, I did not hear about it until several days after the services.

I don’t know if we still have a telephone prayer chain but we do have a list of people that we pray for at mass each Sunday. At one point throughout the week (I forget when) I called St. Gabriel to let them know I was in the hospital. I had previously sent email to Fr. Mike looking for a time where he could anoint me prior to the G-tube procedure. I did not hear back from him right away and as it turned out I really didn’t think I needed to be anointed because I was not going to have general anesthetic. Not only was I feeling the loss of Margaret Arthur, I wasn’t really sure who would be answering the phone at St. Gabriel. Parishioners Linda Miller and Barb Williams had shared secretarial duties in the past but both of them had recently moved on to other things.

When I called St. Gabriel, the new receptionist reminded me of something I should’ve remembered. Fr. Mike was gone for a trip to Guatemala where we do missionary work at a sister parish down there. She said that he would be home for the weekend but would probably be very busy getting follow-up after his trip. I told her to go ahead and put me on the Sunday prayer list but that Fr. Mike did not need to visit unless he was already making rounds at the hospital. I would probably be home by the time he got around to it. After I returned home, I did get a visit from Fr. Mike even though I told him I was doing okay. It was nice to spend some time just chatting with him and to show him around my office with all of my computer equipment.

One sort of new person in my support system was a woman I have known for 40 years but had only recently reconnected with her through Facebook. Ellie Vinci was a dear friend from my college days. Although most of my time at IUPUI was spent at the 38th St. campus, I did spend one semester at the downtown campus and that’s where I met Ellie. I could probably do multiple blogs about my relationship with her but the short version is she was the first girl I ever went on a date with who was not in a wheelchair. She also took me to my first hockey game. Although she was normally a very mild-mannered and sensitive person, when she was at a hockey game she would scream and yell and curse like a sailor. I’ve often described her as a lovely sweet person who taught me a deep appreciation of violence on ice 🙂

Anyway… The week before I went in the hospital for some reason I decided to search for her on Facebook. We have talked several times off and on over the years. We have run into each other different places that we had not stayed in close contact. Just as we reconnected on Facebook, she said she was going on vacation with her two daughters to visit Rome and Sicily. With a name like Vinci you can expect she has connections to the region. In fact she traces her ancestry to Sicily. On one of our dates we had gone to see “The Godfather Part 2”. She said at the time “It’s about my people” although I don’t think she was claiming any actual Mafia connection… Just Sicilian connections.

While it I was in the hospital it was fun to watch all of the great photos she was posting on Facebook while in Rome. I told her to say hi to the Pope for me. She later posted that she had prayed for me at the tomb of St. Peter.

It wasn’t just Facebook friends or friends traveling in Rome that were supporting me. I also had a few visitors in the hospital. Our friend Jack Brake stopped by for a visit. I play poker with him from time to time and he purchased our shares of our cabin on Cordry Lake. He was excited to tell us about selling the old pontoon boat that we had and purchasing a new one. At one point his wife called and reminded him that he was late for dinner.

On Saturday my friends Rich and Kathy visited. You cannot find more loyal friends than them. They probably would’ve been there sooner but Rich had been out of town at a bowling tournament in Reno Nevada that he attends every year. He had just gotten home in the middle of the night Thursday night and he took Friday to rest up. I got to fill them in on all of the details of what had been going on even though they had been following on Facebook as well.

I also had the opportunity to talk to my sister Carol on the phone but neither she nor Karen were able to visit me. It wasn’t really necessary but it might have be nice to give dad a break. I’m sure if it had been serious they would have been there plenty.

Not much happened on Saturday or Sunday. I mostly just laid around and watched TV. Dad had decided that he could get out of our neighborhood on Sunday if he waited until the race started. Then he could hang around a little bit late and go back home after the traffic cleared. We watched the race together although he tended to sit in the chair and fall asleep quite a bit. Normally that’s not a problem when you have a DVR. If something big happens while watching a race and he missed it, I could typically just rewind and show him my own replay. No such luck in the hospital.

 

Time to Leave

I slept very well Sunday night and the only bad part was I overheard some nurses talking in the hallway about Game of Thrones. I was two episodes behind and I overheard some serious spoilers. Most notably I heard about an incident with Hodor. I had successfully avoided Internet spoilers and resisted looking at articles that said “Now we know why he is called Hodor”. I thought about yelling out to them to shut up but I actually wanted to hear what they were saying. They sounded like very knowledgeable fans.

Things naturally move slower on the weekend in the hospital and on a holiday like Memorial Day Monday I expected things to go even slower. I did get definitive word from my attending physician that I could definitely go home. I did not have my usual attending physician with the fascinating Persian accent. When the guy introduced himself I said “So you are the guy who drew the short straw and had to work on a holiday.” He said they all take turns and it comes out even in the end. I suppose I would rather work Memorial Day than Christmas or something. At least I was definitely going home. I celebrated by posting some Philip Phillips “Home” on Facebook.

Because that pain pill had worked so well Friday night, I asked if they could write me a prescription for 6 or 8 of them so that I can have them on hand on those rare occasions when the pain returned. They had no problem doing that and I ended up getting a script for 12 of them. They were also going to change one of my medications. The Flomax that I take to help me relax my prostate so I can urinate has a warning that you should not open, crush, or chew them. That meant it could not be crushed, dissolved and put in the G-tube. They had substituted a different drug. This was all news to me because I have been chewing them for years. Well not exactly. They come in a plastic capsule which normally would have been too big for me to swallow even when I was doing pretty well swallowing. But the capsule is only about one half full of whatever powder is in there. I had always just let them soften up in my mouth, smash the outer capsule part flat, and swallowed the flattened capsule. Most of the time the contents would not spill out but even if they did, they did not taste bad. In recent months I had been actually chewing them up with no apparent ill effect.

My release orders were going to stop my diuretic bumetanide, stop the isosorbide, and switch to a different prostate medicine. I knew right away I wasn’t going to do any of that. I was going back on my regular medication and taking it orally like I had always done. But of course I did not tell them any of that. A week or so after I got home I had an appointment with my regular physician Dr. Kyrouac and he had no problem with me going back to my regular meds.

One of the things that typically delays your discharge from the hospital is the removal of catheters and IVs. I had no problem talking them into removing the catheter. That went promptly. But in the middle of the morning the nurse came in to hang another bag of antibiotic for my IV. I said “But I’m going home and they are giving me a different antibiotic for the next few days. Do we really need to do this one?” She insisted that we do. Then she dropped a bombshell on me. It was going to take 4 hours to finish.

it’s hard enough to get me dressed and get my back brace on in an unfamiliar bed. We also had the new G-tube to wrestle with. Neither dad nor I wanted to try to dress me with an IV hooked up. I have to wear an undershirt beneath my brace and the only way to get my arm through it would be to temporarily disconnect the IV and reconnect it. So we just waited an unnecessary four hours for the IV to finish.

But then it didn’t. It ended up taking an extra 45 minutes. Apparently the drip rate on the IV pump compared to the amount of fluid in a bag doesn’t always exactly finish at the appropriate time. So when it was finally over after nearly 5 hours, I thought I was ready to go and then we got another bombshell!

You just can’t stop an antibiotic IV. You have to push saline through it at the same rate that the antibiotic was going and that was going to take another hour! I was furious! One of the nurses, not the one who insisted on the IV antibiotic, asked me if I wanted to complain to a supervisor. Given my recent success with supervisory complaints I probably should have. But I didn’t want to do anything that was going to piss off the nurse who was letting me go on to do anything that would slow me down it any other way. I just thought the whole last dose of antibiotic was unnecessary and I also didn’t like the idea that 4 hours ended up being about 6.

Eventually it was all over with. Dad got me dressed and the brace went on reasonably well. After being in the hospital connected to IVs for days I had gained a lot of water weight. I’m always bloated after these things and you could tell that my brace did not close nearly as tightly as it usually does. Dad got me dressed and then nurses brought in a Hoyer lift to pick me up and put me in the wheelchair. They use a totally different kind of sling seat than the one that I use. Nobody uses the kind of seat I use. For the most part my seat is reasonably comfortable and pretty safe but one of these days I’m thinking about trying out some of the newer kinds of slings. If I need to sit on the toilet for a long time it’s a bit uncomfortable. Also I use a different seat going from the bed to my bathtub and that one isn’t quite as safe as I wish it was.

Having not set up in the wheelchair for days and having a brace on me that wasn’t in its normal position, I did not even attempt to drive myself down to the car. We had a nurse use the attendant joystick on the back of the chair to drive me. Dad drove his go-go scooter and carried everything else we had. He had already taken my laptop to the car during the four hour delay.

On the ride home my belly felt kind of weird poking through the new hole in the brace. It was a very strange feeling but fortunately it didn’t last very long. We were going to stop at the pharmacy to fill the prescription for my oral antibiotic that I would need to take for the next two or three days. I also wanted to get those pain pills just in case. I was not going to fill the Flomax substitute medication because I was going back to the Flomax. Unfortunately the Walgreens at 38th and High School Road was closed for Memorial Day. The sign in the window said there was one open at 16th and Meridian. We decided I could do without filling the prescriptions for another day. That was a decision I would later regret.

According to this post on Facebook we didn’t get home until about 5:45 Monday evening. They had sent us home with a couple of one liter bottles of the using liquid and a syringe to do the feeding. Dad’s first attempt at doing it was uneventful.

 

DVR Damage Assessment

We have two DVR’s in our home. One in the living room for things that dad and I watch together or that he watches on his own. The other one is in my bedroom and is only for stuff that I watch. I spent the rest of the evening going through both of them to see how much damage had been done by recordings overflowing in my absence. It is a proven fact that no matter how much capacity I have in a DVR, it’s never enough. Both of them are always 90-95% full. Bright House allows you to remotely schedule something to record using a webpage interface. You can also cancel a scheduled recording. Unfortunately you cannot see how much free space you currently have and you cannot see what a list of what you have recorded. I’m not talking about being able to watch your shows remotely. I just want to see what I have recorded and possibly be able to delete it remotely. You can watch many shows online especially on demand shows. But you really cannot fully manage your DVR away from home.

Sometime in the middle of the week I told dad to erase some shows from my DVR. I Have a Backlog of late-night shows like Jimmy Fallon and Stephen Colbert that I knew I could delete and free up some space. I would’ve liked to have seen some of those shows but missing them was no big deal. Unfortunately I did not give dad any instructions about the living room DVR. I had some old movies recorded when the IFC channel a marathon of 5 movies about time travel. I was looking for a block of time to binge watch them. They were the oldest things on the DVR but I had them protected with the “do not erase” flag set. There was a bunch of other stuff on there that was pretty old that I didn’t care if it got erased. I understood that if the machine overflowed, the oldest unprotected stuff would go first. There was enough of that that I was certain any newer shows especially dad’s shows would not be touched. I should’ve explained all that to him but I didn’t. He saw the living room DVR reach 100% so he deleted some of those old movies thinking that the old stuff was fair game. I later had explained to him my system. In some ways the older a program is, the more irreplaceable it is.

In the end the damage wasn’t too bad. A couple of the shows he deleted I was able to rerecord. A couple of those rare sci-fi time travel movies were lost but I will find them again eventually. There were actually fewer deletions that I had been expecting. The same was true in the bedroom. I lost a few things I wish I protected but there was nothing I was going to lose any sleep over.

 

The Pain Returns

I went to bed about 8:30 or 9 PM which is a little bit early for me but I was a bit tired after a stressful day. I watched some TV in bed but went to sleep before midnight which is early for me. I’m usually awake until maybe 1 AM or so. Dad went to sleep early as well. He was still suffering pretty badly with pain from his shingles outbreak. Unfortunately in the middle of the night my strange back pain returned. I tried some liquid Tylenol but that did not help and the pain got worse. We probably should’ve gone to the other pharmacy to get those pain pills but I only had the pain three or four times in 10 years. I didn’t really expect it to return so quickly.

Dad has some pain pills and normally I’m the strictest person you will ever find when it comes to the “don’t take other people’s prescription medicine rules.” However I was in pretty bad shape. He had two different doses available and I took one half of the smaller doses. We ground it up, dissolved it, and put it in the G-tube. That helped a little bit but not much. An hour or so later I took another half. The pain eventually went away but not as easily or as quickly as the pills that I had in the hospital and that I would eventually get filled once the pharmacy opened.

I slept late the next day because we had been Away from 4 AM till 6:30 AM dealing with the pain. The company that was going to supply me with feeding liquid brought by a week or so worth of supplies. They told me they would also be sending a month’s worth by UPS a few days. The pain did not return Tuesday night but I did get another spell Wednesday night at about 2 AM. This time I had my own prescription and it took care of things right away. Fortunately I’ve not had any recurrence in the past three weeks. But if it ever does come back I still have plenty of those pills in reserve.

This blog is already over 13,000 words. I think will wrap this up for now. At some point I will do another blog post talking about everything that has happened since I returned home.

I Went to Communion Today.

For a lifelong Catholic that isn’t necessarily an extraordinary statement and to be clear I always receive communion when I go to mass. But it’s been a many years since “I WENT” to Communion. The difference between receiving communion and going to Communion is that for the first time in years I was able to go up in the normal communion procession along with the rest of the congregation. I went to it. They didn’t bring it to me.

In recent years and had become so difficult for me to drive my motorized wheelchair that I asked my pastor the late Fr. Larry Crawford if he or one of the other Eucharistic ministers could come down the aisle to where I sit and bring me communion. Even when I was still able to drive my old wheelchair, I had to put the stick in my mouth to steady my hand on the wheelchair control. It got to be too difficult to drive up, take the stick out, receive communion, put the stick back in my mouth, get my arm in the proper position to drive, and then drive back to my pew. He said it was no problem because he would send Eucharistic ministers down the aisle to give communion to other elderly and disabled people.

After Fr. Crawford retired and unfortunately passed away shortly thereafter, our new pastor Fr. Mike has always come down the aisle to bring me communion. In the three or four years he’s been here that’s the way it’s always been.

But now with my new power chair that I can drive using a joystick that I control with my lips, for the first time today I drove up in the normal communion procession and took communion just like everybody else.

It was a very good day.

Tough to Swallow

On Thursday April 14, 2016 I reached a turning point regarding my disability. However the story behind this incident had been coming for a very long time. It’s taken me four days to write and rewrite the story. I can’t just tell what happened. I have to put it in the context of events that event evolving for years.

 

Good News/Bad News

Having Spinal Muscular Atrophy Type II is always been a sort of “good news/bad news” kind of situation. Although I’ve often described it as a type of muscular dystrophy, it doesn’t progress as rapidly or severely as the most common type of MD which is Duchenne muscular dystrophy. All of my friends that I went to school with who had Duchenne muscular dystrophy died in their teens or early twenties. Actually SMA technically isn’t muscular dystrophy. It is more closely related to ALS or motor neuron disease most famously contracted by Lou Gehrig and Stephen Hawking. Both SMA and ALS affect the motor neurons and are progressively degenerative. But again the good news is that SMA does not progress nearly as rapidly as ALS. Having known people who were spinal cord injured, I counted myself lucky that my disability was not from some injury. They seem to have the added trouble of the reality that they had once been able-bodied and then lost that ability. Although I’ve had to struggle with the slow progression of by disability, I’ve always had some severe kind of disability. I haven’t had to deal with the sense of loss as much as they would. Similarly I’ve counted my blessings that I don’t have the communications difficulties of someone like my late friend Christopher Lee who had severe cerebral palsy and could not talk so that the average person could understand him. I guess one of my coping mechanisms has been a “glass half full” approach to my disability.

The bad news about SMA is that even though it’s not as bad as a number of other kinds of related disabilities, it does have its serious challenges and it is decidedly progressive. Last summer I turned 60 years old and that caused me to reflect on the progression of my disability. Also the fact that I could no longer drive my power wheelchair using my hand on a joystick has heightened my sense of the progression of my disease. It’s taken me nearly a year to get a new wheelchair that I operate and even then it’s not going to be easy. I could see the inability to drive my chair looming in the distance for many years. I knew it was coming and I put it off as long as I could before giving up on using my hand on the joystick and going to rate mouth controlled system.

 

Farewell Popcorn

Other than the wheelchair driving difficulty, another ticking time bomb of the progression of my disability has been swallowing difficulties. Because my disease progresses so slowly, it’s difficult to pinpoint a particular point in time when a new symptom actually occurs. The problems sneak up on you in the way that you don’t really notice. It’s a bit likely apocryphal proverb about putting a frog in a pot of water and turning up the heat slowly. If you turn it up fast, the frog jumps out. If you turn it up slowly the frog will cook. My disability “turns up the heat” on me very slowly.

At some point perhaps 25 or 30 years ago I was noticing that food would stick in the back of my throat. I didn’t really choke on it most of the time. There would just be a little chunk of ground beef or perhaps a piece of hotdog about the size of a pencil eraser that would get caught somewhere in my throat and could stay there for hours. It would get stuck there during supper and many hours later when I would go to bed, as my head would get tilted or my neck twisted at a strange angle, it would get dislodged and I would spit it out or swallow it again. As long as it was something somewhat mushy or rubbery like a piece of meat I would not choke on it and it would not give any problems except for a funny feeling in my throat. My normal diet does not include raw vegetables or salads. I just never had a taste for them. But something like the hardshell of a piece of popcorn would easily get caught and because it was hard with rough edges. I had to give up even popcorn altogether so long ago I don’t recall when I had my last piece.

Somewhere along in my 30s, I had a nasty case of pneumonia that landed me in the hospital for over a week. On two different occasions during that stay, they had to stick a tube down my throat and suction the gunk out of my lungs. While the doctor was doing that, I asked him to see if there was something unusual in my throat as he put the scope down it. It always felt like there was a shelf or a flap where the food would sit with it would get stuck. He reported that he saw nothing unusual. During the procedure a couple of times he asked me to swallow and I could not. His attitude was that I was being uncooperative or nervous or something. He managed to do what he needed to do anyway. I wasn’t uncooperative. I just simply could not swallow with my head in that position.

I think it was shortly after that suctioning situation that I became more concerned about my swallowing problems. It was becoming more likely that I would choke on certain foods. Because my lungs are very weak to begin with it is very difficult for me to cough up anything when I do choke. When it gets really bad the only way I can deal with it is to lay down in bed flat so that I’m not fighting gravity. Then I’m able to cough up what I need to cough up.

After discussing it with my doctor, we decided I should have a fluoroscopic swallowing study. It’s a type of real-time x-ray using a video screen. They have you chew up and swallow food that has been laced with barium. That makes it show up on x-rays screen. It should have been a simple procedure if I could’ve done it sitting in my wheelchair but instead they had to sit me up on the edge of an exam table. Mom and dad had to hold me in position and hold my head up straight while we did it. The x-ray technician was a real asshole. I would try to tell her something about what I was needing and she wouldn’t stop to listen to me. My mom chewed her out really good. Nothing would set my mom off on an angry tirade than if someone didn’t listen to me or treat me with respect. This particular incident was one of my favorites. Anyway the end result was that the report said I was swallowing terribly. The recommendation was that I should stop eating solid food immediately. My response was to laugh and basically say fuck no. They said that when a normal person swallows, the esophagus raises up and elongates. Mine isn’t doing that at all.

I just did a Google search and a YouTube search and found the following video that illustrates exactly what they are talking about. I wish I had a video of my actual tests to show you. This video is not me but if you watch when the person swallows you can see the upward motion that they were talking about when the person swallows. Apparently I don’t do what you see in this video.

The end result of all of this was that I just learned what to do and not to do when I’m swallowing. I’m pretty sure that by this time I had already given up on things like popcorn. But I started being more careful about what I would eat and how I would eat it. For some reason I can eat ordinary potato chips okay however corn chips like Doritos chew up to be more gritty and present a choking hazard. Fortunately I’ve not ever been a big fan of corn chips. If there was something gritty that I wanted to eat it would help if I would chew it up with something else like bread. The doughy food protected my throat from the hard scratchiness of something like bacon. Even as my throat has gotten worse over the years, bacon is one of the things I’ve not been able to give up completely. I saw standup comedian at one time on TV talk about his fear of flying. He said that every time he gets off of an airplane safely he considers it a failed suicide attempt. I thought that it was so funny that I adopted that phrase for myself. Every time I swallow bacon I consider it a failed suicide attempt 🙂 Some days bacon is worth risking your life.

 

Dining Out

I mentioned earlier that when I do get a coughing spell sometimes the only way to get over it is to lie down. That can make it especially dangerous if I’m not somewhere where I can lie down. On a couple of occasions I’ve had choking spells in dangerous situations.

I recall one time on Thanksgiving at my sister Carol’s house I got a piece of turkey caught in my throat. With the help of my brother-in-law Joe, dad had to pick me up and laid me down in her bed until I got things coughed up. Getting me out of my chair and into a bed without my Hoyer lift is difficult but not impossible especially if you have two people to do it. I don’t weigh so much that a single strong person could not lift me however it’s harder on me to be lifted by one person because my arms or legs to get tangled up in a weird way. Getting me back into the wheelchair is a bit more difficult because as you lift me, my back brace shifts around. When I’m getting into the bed I don’t care how the brace gets messed up. Typically even if you pick me up with a Hoyer lift, once I’ve laid down we had to redo the brace from scratch because it gets shoved out of place. The process of putting me back in the chair with the lift doesn’t mess up the brace too much. I start with the brace on me lower that it should be and as you lift me it tends to slide up hopefully into the right place. When lifting me by hand the brace slippage is more unpredictable. I usually end up sitting uncomfortably after such an incident. Even under ideal conditions if I had to lie down and get back up again during the day it never feels like the brace gets back on me properly the second time. It’s just something about twisting my body in unusual ways in the middle of the day that messes me up.

The Thanksgiving incident wasn’t too bad because I was in someone’s home and both my dad and another strong person were available to lift into a nearby bed. A somewhat more frightening incident occurred one time when I was out to dinner with my friend Judy Chapman. She has a much better memory for dates than I do and after discussing it with her recently we concluded this was probably sometime in the fall 1999. We went out to eat and then we were planning to visit her dad in a nursing home or hospital. I got something caught in my throat and began choking.

I suppose I should explain that when I say “choking” it isn’t one of those situations where your air gets cut off completely and you start turning blue and someone has to do the Heimlich maneuver on you. It’s more of a situation where I start coughing because the food is scratching my throat. Your natural defense mechanisms create lots of mucus to help you try to clear whenever is caught. The mucus does help dislodge whatever I’m choking on but because my lungs are so weak I cannot cough up the mucus. Of course your nose starts running as well and you start blowing those nasty snot bubbles which looks really gross in a public place like Shapiro’s Delicatessen. Sometimes it’s just a case of mind over matter where you have to will yourself to not cough or gag. Both are an automatic reflex that with concentrated effort one can override mentally. We got back in my van and went straight home without going to see Judy’s father. On another occasion I did get to visit him in the hospital before he died. As a side note… He died on December 1, 1999 which was the same day that my dad had heart bypass surgery in the same hospital. While I was waiting on my dad’s recovery, I went upstairs to see how Judy’s dad was doing. He died just a few minutes before I arrived. At least I did get there to give Judy and her family a hug shortly after that.

I can’t say for certain that the dinner date with Judy was the last time that I ever ate out in a restaurant with a friend but it might actually have been the last. I know for certain that was not the last time I had ever eaten out in a restaurant with family. We would routinely stop for dinner at the Steak’n’Shake on our way to the lake. I would try to be especially careful swallowing because we usually stopped at the one on the south side which was a good 30 – 45 minutes from home or the lake. In recent years the only place I’ve eaten out has been the Golden Corral Buffet or Denny’s or Applebee’s all of which are just 10 minutes from home. I’ve avoided a lot of pitch in dinners at church. When I was managing the poker tournaments at the church festival I was always careful what I would eat. Sometimes dinner at the festival consisted of nothing but French fries because they are mushy enough not to get caught.

 

Warning Signs

The incidents I’ve been describing have all been more than 15 years ago. The swallowing study was probably 20 or 25 years ago. Over all these years I’ve just been managing the situation as best I can. Gradually certain foods have continued to drop off my menu. Within the past couple of years I’ve had to give up one of my favorites which is steak. In order to get food to go down I have to chew it up so thoroughly that it takes forever sometimes just to get down a single bite. If you chew steak that thoroughly it eventually loses all flavor. And unless it is extremely tender steak of the highest quality I couldn’t get it down at all. Normally we would only eat steak on special occasion but I finally had to tell dad a few years ago that I was giving it up altogether. The frustration I had in trying to swallow it was ruining any pleasure I was getting from eating my all-time favorite food.

Somewhere along the way I corresponded online one time with a guy from Australia who also has Spinal Muscular Atrophy. He said that he was 60 years old. I don’t know how old I was at the time but I’m going to guess 45 or 50. I remember thinking that it was good to hear that a guy with SMA made it to 60. But I don’t think 60 was extremely far off. I searched through all my emails back to 2004 and cannot find the correspondence. I must’ve been using a different email system back then. He said something that really surprised me. He wasn’t eating anymore. He had to have a gastric feeding tube inserted into his stomach. They do a minor surgical procedure that inserts a tube into your abdomen and into your stomach. You have a large syringe approximately an inch in diameter to which you pour or force with a plunger some sort of protein liquid.

A few years later after this correspondence my mother had to have a g-tube because the radiation treatments for her cancer had irritated her esophagus and she could not swallow anything. She had problems that the syringe didn’t want to stay connected to the g-tube unless you held it in place. My dad put to work his sheet-metal maker skills and made a little bracket to hold it in place. Unfortunately mom was pretty weak and she would routinely fall asleep while she waited for the liquid to drip into her. She ended up spilling it anyway on many occasions. Fortunately she only had it for a month or two.

Another foreshadowing of what was to come occurred on February 2, 2006. According to IMDb.com that was the air date for an episode of “ER” season 12 episode 13. It featured a guest star appearance of one of my favorite actors James Woods. He typically plays brainy, self-confident, sometimes arrogant characters. I wonder why I like those kind of characters 🙂 I also liked his starring role as a smart, arrogant, lawyer in a short-lived TV series called “Shark”. This performance for ER was a typical character for him. He played a college professor Dr. Nate Lennox who had ALS. Actually as I was preparing this blog I had thought his character had SMA but when I looked it up I saw it was actually ALS which as I had previously mentioned is similar. (I was confusing it with an episode of “House M.D.” which featured a character with SMA). Woods’ performance in that episode of ER earned him an Emmy nomination for Best Guest Star. He should have won but didn’t.

James Woods

The episode titled “Body and Soul” was told as a series of flashbacks as the professor made various trips to the ER. Each visit showed a different stage of the progression of his disease. About 15 minutes into the episode it shows an incident where he is at a fancy dinner where he is about to receive an award. He’s in a wheelchair is being fed by his caregiver. She is a former student and assistant named Fran. (Hell of a coincidence isn’t it?) Just as they are announcing she is the winner of the award he begins choking on his food. They rush him to the ER. The following conversation takes place…


ER doctor: Well, his chest x-ray is negative for aspiration. You got lucky, Nate.

Professor: Yeah. (sarcastically) I’m the luckiest man on the face of the Earth.

ER doctor: It’s time for a feeding tube.

Professor: No, it’s not.

ER doctor: Well, your chewing and swallowing muscles are getting pretty weak.

Professor: Fran will have to cut my meat smaller (looks at Fran) …won’t she?

Fran: Takes him an hour to eat a meal.

ER doctor: He’s lost 10 pounds.

Professor: More like 5. (sarcastically) The rest is water weight.

ER doctor: Weight loss accelerates the progression of ALS. The extra calories from the tube feeding will mean increased strength more energy and longer survival.


I can attest that cutting your meat smaller doesn’t really help and apparently the professor knew that. He agreed to have the G-tube installed. I already knew that there was probably a G-tube in my future. The sentence that was a bit of an eye-opener for me was with his caregiver friend says “Takes an hour to eat a meal”. I had not really thought about that before. I thought to myself that when it was taking me an hour to eat a meal I would know that I needed the G-tube as well.

In other flashbacks earlier he resisted getting a CPAP to help him breathe at night. In another flashback when it came time to put in a trach because he couldn’t breathe at all there was a difference of opinion as to whether or not he consented to have the trach installed and to be put on a ventilator. I had already been using a CPAP for many years and had seen the benefits of it. I was already prepared for the possibility of a ventilator some day and while I don’t look forward to it, at least I know it’s coming. I won’t spoil the rest of the episode but it has a very dramatic conclusion with a plot twist. If you ever catch it on a rerun be sure to check it out. In preparation for this blog I purchased a copy on Amazon prime video for $1.95. I can show it to you. It is brilliantly well-written and acted.

 

I Don’t Give a Spit

One of the consequences of all of this isn’t just about eating food. You probably don’t think about it but hundreds perhaps thousands of times a day you swallow spit. My mom had a problem one time one time unrelated to her cancer in which she got a pill caught in her esophagus. It was not in her windpipe so she could breathe okay. She just couldn’t swallow. At first when it was stuck she just tried swallowing lots of water but eventually her esophagus got so irritated that it closed up completely and she couldn’t swallow anything. She ended up having to go to the ER and they were able to go down her throat and get it dislodged. But it really called home for all of us who heard about it the fact that you do need to swallow spit on a regular basis. Until she got it taken care of she had to carry a cup to spit into.

For some reason my saliva is exceptionally thick and viscous. When I brush my teeth and I need to spit, we have discovered it’s easier if I spit into a drinking straw rather than to try to lean forward and spit into a bowl or a glass. No matter how hard I blow into the straw as I finish spitting, when you pull the straw away from my mouth there is always a long strand of saliva that stays connected. It’s not uncommon for me to produce a strand more than a foot long. I have often joked that I have industrial-strength spit. I keep threatening to donate a sample to NASA or some other scientific research agency to see if they can make some sort of superglue or lubricant out of it.

As I said earlier, you probably don’t think a lot about swallowing spit but I’ve had to give it a lot of thought. It seems that when I tried to swallow something I could only get down about two thirds or three fourths of what I’m trying to swallow. When it’s something solid it seems like the only way to get something to go down is to have something in front of it to push it back down. That means there’s constantly something un-swallowable in my mouth all the time and when I’m not eating that something is spit. If I leave it resting and in its un-swallowed location at the back of my throat then there is a risk that if I inhale quickly through my mouth it would get sucked into my lungs.

Most of the times that I’ve choked on food it was because there was a small crumb resting at the back of my throat and if I inhale quickly through my mouth it would get sucked in. One of the strategies I’ve had to develop while I’m eating is to pay close attention to how I breathe. Talking is also a problem. We all learned “”Don’t talk with your mouth full” but the proverb should say “Don’t talk with anything in your mouth”. The problem is when you can only swallow a percentage of what is in your mouth, your mouth is never completely empty. Because my lung capacity is so small, it is very rare that I can get out a complete sentence without having to gasp for a breath in the middle. It’s usually during one of these midsentence gasps that I’ve lost concentration about what’s in my mouth and something gets sucked in.

On various visits to the hospital they have used a suction device just to clear my mouth of spit or phlegm. At first I thought they were calling it a “yanker” because it would yank the stuff out of your mouth. Actually it’s called a “Yankauer”. According to Wikipedia it was “…developed around 1907 by American otolaryngologist Sidney Yankauer (1872-1932), the Yankauer suction instrument has become the most common medical suction instrument in the world.”

yankauer

RobitussinIn recent years as it has become more and more difficult for me to empty my mouth by swallowing. I’ve considered trying to get a suction device. At one point I talked to my lung doctor about it and mentioned the extreme viscosity of my saliva. My chronic sinus problems make things even worse. He seemed reluctant to sign off on purchasing such a device. He suggested using an expectorant medicine like Mucinex or Robitussin. For many years now I’ve been using Robitussin DM which contains not only an expectorant but a cough suppressant which helps alleviate the scratchy feeling and to suppress my cough/gag reflex. I discovered that the sugar-free Robitussin DM isn’t as thick and syrupy as the usual kind and is easier to swallow. I’ve never been a big fan of cherry flavor syrup anyway.

The constant collection of spit in my mouth has been especially troublesome in recent years while trying to sleep. My mouth tends to dry out at night which helps alleviate the problem somewhat. There have been a number of occasions if I was lying on my back that I would wake up coughing because the spit had gotten into my windpipe. Most of the time I lie on my right side and the result has been a nasty pool of spit on my pillow. When I’m on my side we have been putting a dry washcloth tucked under my cheek which makes it easier to clean up later on.

During the day one of the strategies to manage the spit is to swallow as much as I can. Then I retrieve what’s left over from the back of my mouth and tuck it into my right cheek. I know that it looks weird. It adversely affects my speech. Sometimes it messes up my speech so much that my dictation software can’t understand me. Stuffing the spit in my cheek is basically a gross thing to do but it has been the only coping mechanism that I have come up with. On many occasions friends have offered to help me spit it out but I have to explain that if I did that, I would just have to do it again every 10 minutes. Also the quantity of spit we are talking about is more than could be easily put into a tissue or handkerchief. I could carry around a cup with a straw to spit in but that I would require dealing with the foot long strands of saliva dripping all over the place.

The bottom line is, spit management has become increasingly troublesome prospect on top of all of my other swallowing and coughing difficulties.

 

The Sinus Connection

Rose_of_sharonUnless I lose concentration or something unusual happens, I have been managing the food choking issues pretty well in recent years. However the sinuses have complicated the situation. I’ve always had allergies during the summer. There is a particular flowering bush called “Rose of Sharon” that has a beautiful purple flower with a fuzzy yellow center that is devastating to me. It usually blooms in July around my birthday. I may be allergic to other kinds of pollen but I know that one for
[image rose of Sharon]

Additionally having a CPAP machine blowing air up your nose all night long tends to aggravate your sinuses. Furthermore I take Flomax prescription medicine for my prostate to make it easier for me to urinate. Flomax doesn’t just make your urine flow. Apparently it makes your nose flow to the max as well. A runny nose is a well-documented side effect. All of these sinus situations cause drainage in my throat and tend to make the thick saliva worse.

At some point I’m guessing maybe two years ago I started having coughing spells even when I wasn’t eating. My sinuses would drain in my throat and make it scratchy. That would cause a mucous reaction which would also make my nose run worse which would cause more drainage which made it worse and worse. Sometimes the spells were associated with eating and possibly caused by a crumb but often it would come out of nowhere. These incidents were often more severe than the food related incidents as they would worsen much more quickly. At first I would try to fight them off by willpower but the mucus was so thick that I would find myself unable to breathe at all. I can’t begin to count the number of occasions where we rushed to my bedroom to lie me down and we barely got me there in time before I was in full respiratory arrest. Once I lie down and catch my breath I can usually cough everything up and be ready to get dressed and up again in about an hour. If it occurs in the evening I usually just stay in bed. My recent adaptations of being able to use my laptop computer while in bed have lessened the impact of that decision to stay down. I’ve had to train myself to not wait until I’m in such dire distress before giving and going to bed.

A year ago when I started shopping for a new wheelchair we made the decision to get one that would tilt and recline. Not only would it solve the problem of what to do if I choked when I was away from home, our hope was that reclining even at home would be easier. It’s quite a process in that you have to hook me up in the Hoyer lift, transfer me to bed, and remove my back brace. Removing the brace makes it easier to breathe and the brace to be completely redone before getting me back up anyway. The way my bladder operates, within a minute of lying down I have to pee. When I’m lying down it’s easier to prop up the urinal if you pull down my pants. Even if I don’t pee, we had to take my pants down to get the brace back on anyway. Because we have to roll me around the lot to get my brace back on later it’s easier to roll me with my shoes off so I take them off as well. Basically I get 95% naked just cough up a piece of food or gunk in my lungs. Avoiding all that with a reclining chair was going to be a lot easier and of course it might actually save my life.

The day that I did a test drive of a reclining chair, while I was reclined I coughed up a small piece of White Castle Hamburger that had been stuck in the back of my throat for a couple of hours. It was not bad enough that I was choking on it. But lying back in the reclining chair and being able to get it dislodged proved to me that the reclining chair was going to work. And given the suddenness and severity of the sinus related incidents, a reclining chair might just save my life. As I write this blog I have had the new chair about a month and I already have had one sinus related scratchy throat incident in which I stopped what I was doing and had dad recline me. I was able to successfully cough up the phlegm that had already collected and relax until the Robitussin and Sudafed kicked in.

 

The Chris Young Pharmacy

It’s not just Robitussin that has become a staple item around here. I’ve tried every type of nasal steroid spray. I’m currently using two different kinds that have been the best I’ve used so far. One is the over-the-counter Flonase generic name Fluticasone and the other is a prescription called Azelastine. They make a spray called Dymista that is the combination of both of those sprays but my insurance won’t pay for it. It will pay for them separately but not together. The other go to drug is Sudafed. It’s the only decongestant I found that will dry out my nose. The doctor has warned me that is bad for my heart and I believe that. It can’t be good for you. It’s banned from the Olympics because it’s a stimulant. Also it is the main ingredient in cooking crystal meth. Even though it’s nonprescription, you have to sign for it at the pharmacy. At the rate I take it I’m probably on some DEA watchlist :-). I tried using the ephedrine free version it actually made my sinuses worse. Seriously I never take more than one dose per day and even if I’m going through a bad spell I generally only take it three or four days a week. Sometimes only once a week. Sometimes I don’t take any for long periods of time.

drugs

While we are on the topic of drugs, most of the medicine that I take on a daily basis is pretty small. Three times a day I take isosorbide for my heart. It is about the size of a baby aspirin. I take one dose of digoxin for my heart. I take a half of a pill of diuretic called bumetanide. When discussing my sinus medication I neglected to mention I also take a Zyrtec over-the-counter sinus pill. To help prevent urinary infections I take a very mild antibiotic called trimethoprim. I’ve never had any difficulty swallowing the small pills but that oval-shaped one has sometimes been a little difficult. Occasionally I would break it in two. The Flomax is a rather large capsule but I discovered that the capsule is only about a third full of powder. If you leave it in your mouth for a few seconds the capsule gets soft and you can smash it flat. That makes it much easier to swallow. Sometimes I end up chewing it up completely.

tylenol

I take a lot of Tylenol for sinus headaches, body aches, and ordinary headaches or fever when I’m sick. Long ago I became unable to take a regular Tylenol capsule. For a while they were making a tablet that was chewable or dissolvable in your mouth. It was about the size of a large antacid tablet and had a mild minty flavor to it. They were pretty expensive and I guess they never took off in the marketplace because they discontinued them. Soon after that, they began making a liquid Tylenol in an adult dose. They had been making with children’s Tylenol for a long time that you needed to take a lot of it to get the adult dose. I’ve always been worried that they would discontinue the liquid adult Tylenol and in fact under the Tylenol brand I think they had discontinued it. But you can get store brands at Walgreens and Mejer’s. We always buy several bottles at once because it’s not always in stock. I’m not fond of the cherry flavor Tylenol but that’s all I’ve been able to find.

For things like sinus infections or colds or flu I usually get some sort of ampicillin or other penicillin like antibiotic. They usually all are available in liquid form. My usual antibiotic for urinary infections is Levaquin. The normal dose is 500 mg and I discovered that if they give me two 250 mg pills instead then I could get those down. They are a hard pill shaped like a capsule but they are very long and very skinny compared to most capsules. For a long time I was able to swallow them. All the pills I mentioned except for Levaquin fortunately do not have a very nasty taste if you end up having to bite into one or if they dissolve in your mouth. But Levaquin is probably the foulest tasting thing I’ve ever put in my mouth. It has a protective coating but if something goes wrong and that coating melts you definitely don’t want to experience that taste. At one point I discovered that Levaquin came in a liquid form. I tried it once and decided I would rather choke on the pill that ever take that liquid. It was the same horrible taste I’ve experienced if the pill melted in my mouth and they tried (unsuccessfully) to mask it with a strong bitter lemon taste. Over the past couple of years however even the long skinny 250 mg Levaquin has been too difficult to swallow so we crunch it up into a powder and mix it in with chocolate pudding. The pudding doesn’t completely mask the nasty taste but it is tolerable. The song is correct… A spoonful of sugar does help the medicine go down.

I’m guessing it’s been for the past couple of months that even the small pills that I used to be able to swallow easily have not been going down very well. Fortunately none of my regular small pills had a nasty taste and I end up just chewing them up and swallowing them. Speaking of chewing pills… I forgot to mention that at one point I tried an alternative to Flomax to help loosen up my prostate. It was the weirdest shaped pill I’ve ever seen. It was completely cylindrical with a flat end on each end not the rounded end you would expect. It was divided in two different colors. I learned that one half was a quick release and the other half was time-released. When I tried to swallow it, it’s got stuck in my throat. The only way to get it down was drink lots of water which sped up the dissolving of the time-released part. I got horribly sick from the overdose. Nothing dangerous but I only took one of them and said to hell with that. Anyway the point is about able to take anything that has a time-release to it because you are not supposed to chew up or crush such pills.

 

Storytelling

Speaking of drugs… Back before Bill Cosby was infamous for being a drug wielding rapist, he had some pretty funny comedy routines which I greatly admired. It really pisses me off that Cosby turned out to be such a pervert. I’ve so much enjoyed telling his stories and emulating his style. I’m going to continue to appreciate, enjoy, and remember fondly his humor and skill as an entertainer. Just because I quote his well-crafted humor or make references to it should not be considered support for his nefarious activities. I will continue to emulate the better parts of his character. My natural storytelling style is similar to Cosby with his passion for telling a story in complete context with a lengthy set up. Somehow unlike him, I’ve managed to do so without drugging anyone.

My favorite of his long stories were his original routines about his childhood friend “Fat Albert”. On one of his comedy albums he tells a very long story, the purpose of which was to illustrate through multiple incidents just how fat that Fat Albert actually was. Then he pauses to take a breath and says…

“So… I told you that story so I could tell you this one.”

He then proceeds to tell a story about how he tricked Fat Albert to run up a flight of stairs to see something cool. At the top of the landing he placed a giant cardboard cutout of Frankenstein’s monster that he had stolen from a local theater. Unfortunately as they were running up the stairs, he remembered too late that he was behind Fat Albert. You are left to imagine what happened when his rotund friend came charging back down the stairs to escape the monster and ran over Cosby. Cosby is such a vivid storyteller he doesn’t need to finish the rest of the story. He spent 10 or 15 minutes explaining why Fat Albert deserved his nickname just so he could tell you a two minute story about how that chubby chum once ran over him running down a stairway.

I’ve always loved that line where he says “I told you that story so I could tell you this one.” I find myself quoting it frequently. I’ve written 6000 words in this blog post already and I still haven’t gotten to the story that I wanted to tell you. But I wanted to tell you the Cosby story just so that I could write the next sentence.

I told you that story my history of choking and coughing so I could tell you this one.

 

The Day in Question

On Thursday April 14, 2016 I couldn’t eat my lunch

All of the history I have just described in over 6000 words was leading up to this day when I couldn’t eat my lunch. Now I need to tell you about what I usually do for lunch.

When I was a kid, I would eat a bologna sandwich with pickles and ketchup every day for lunch. Somewhere along the way I switched to eating a tuna salad sandwich everyday for lunch. Mom would mix up a very simple recipe using Chicken of the Sea Tuna. She used the kind packed in spring water not the kind which is packed in oil. She would mix it with Hellmann’s Real Mayonnaise and sweet pickle relish. Somehow through four years of college I managed to make such a sandwich survive spoiling in room temperature from when I would leave in the morning until lunchtime. I would also add potato chips and a Coke. When I went to work after college I ate cheeseburgers at the student union building cafeteria. But when I had to quit work I went back to mom’s famous tuna fish exclusively. Sometimes I would switch it up and do bologna with yellow mustard.

In recent years I’ve gotten into a pattern of doing bologna one day and tuna the next day alternating every other day. Whether tuna or bologna I would include a handful of ripple potato chips and a Coke. Rather than eating the bologna in a sandwich, I just take two slices of bologna and cut it up into bite-size pieces. It’s sort of like a homemade grown-up version of the kids snack “Lunchables”. On Sunday I eat a leftover White Castle. The alternating bologna/tuna pattern has been pretty much constant for seven or eight years. Thursday April 14, 2016 was a bologna day.

I’ve had a home health aide for just over seven years. I’m allocated two hours per day. They give me a bed bath, dressed, in my wheelchair, and they feed me lunch. When we first started seven years ago that entire process could be completed in about 90 minutes especially if I did not need to shave or sit on the toilet. For the past three years I’ve been taken care of by a guy named Rick. He moves a little slower than some of the caregivers I’ve had. Unfortunately his health has been deteriorating and he has to stop and rest for a minute or two several times during the process. We were easily filling up and sometimes going 5 or 10 minutes past the allotted two hours. I didn’t mind because Rick did such a good job.

Last November Rick’s health issues became so severe he had to quit and go on disability himself. We remain good friends and stay in touch on Facebook. He also attends my church sometimes. I’m now on my third caregiver since Rick left. The current girl is named Quita and she does a wonderful job. She works quickly, efficiently, and safely. She’s been working here maybe five or six weeks.

it still takes us two hours. I couldn’t figure out why. Things always go slow when a person is first learning the ropes but she has been here long enough that she’s going at a decent speed. She wasn’t as slow as Rick. We should have been able to do it easily in 90 minutes on a day where I didn’t shave or sit on the toilet. I didn’t think I was taking any longer. Somewhere over the past couple of weeks I began to realize it was in fact me who was taking longer. We were getting done dressing me in a reasonable amount of time. The change was that it was taking me longer to eat.

I have become Professor Nate Lennox as portrayed by James Woods in his Emmy nominated performance from season 12 episode 13 of the hit television series “ER”.

In that story they said it took him an hour to a meal. It was taking me a good 40 minutes to eat one half of a tuna fish sandwich, eight potato chips and a Coke. Or 2 slices of bologna, chips and Coke. I should’ve been able to scarf that down in 10 or 15 minutes. I also noticed gradually that dinner was taking longer. Dad is always finishing his dinner way ahead of me. About 9 PM every evening I eat a snack while watching TV. It consists of 3 Chewy Chips Ahoy chocolate chip cookies, a half a glass of milk, and a bottle of Ensure. I used to start the snack while watching a sitcom and I would finish before the sitcom finished. In recent weeks that’s taking me 35-40 minutes which is longer than a sitcom especially since I fast-forward through the commercials on my DVR.

On Thursday April 14, 2016, as I said was a bologna day. It was a severe struggle to swallow every bite. For some reason it just didn’t want to go down. Even drinking a Coke was next to impossible. Sometimes if I drink something that is too cold my throat would tend to close up and make it difficult to swallow. But on this particular day nothing would go down. The Coke wasn’t too cold. The bologna isn’t especially gritty. The chips were my regular potato chips. My throat simply would not cooperate. I normally cut the bologna into eight wedge-shaped pieces and it took me 40 minutes to eat three of them. Dad was out running errands somewhere. My caregiver Quita had to leave to go to her next client. I just gave up eating lunch.

Dad got home a few minutes after she left. I told him what had happened. I decided I had to try to eat something. I had dad feed me a container of Activia strawberry yogurt which I really enjoy. I managed to finish it completely and drink the rest of my Coke. I don’t recall what we had for supper that evening but somehow I managed to get it down.

As you can see after reading all of the above, this day had been coming a long time. The G-tube that was once a long way into my future now seems not only inevitable but imminent. Over the next several days I managed to eat more or less normally but it was still taking a very long time. I discovered that the tuna fish sandwiches were going down much easier than the bologna. A few days later I tried the bologna again but gave up after a few bites and switched back to tuna. I mentioned that some food goes down easier if there is bread with it. For example when swallowing bacon I have to chew it up with a piece of toast to get it to go down. So for lunch one day I tried eating the bologna in a sandwich. One of the problems with sandwiches is that because my disability causes all of my joints to stiffen, my mouth doesn’t open very far. We always have to smash it down very flat. Two slices of bologna and ordinary sandwich bread turned out to be just slightly too thick even when smashed as flat as possible. So I ended up eating it open faced. I was able to get it down but not as easy as the tuna.

 

Peyton Manning Is Right

It is currently April 30th as I’m composing this portion of the blog. It has taken me three days of writing to get here. I have had good days and bad days. The only food that I’ve had to give up on completely is another one of my favorites. Apart from steak which I gave up a couple of years ago perhaps my next favorite food except for pizza is chicken parmesan. And as Peyton Manning famously sings to the tune of the Nationwide Insurance jingle “Chicken parm you taste so good”. We usually get one that is in a TV dinner. A few days ago I had about four bites of one and up. I told dad to cross it off the list.

 

What to Do Next

Writing a blog is therapy for me. It helps put things in perspective. It gets things out of my system or off my chest or provides catharsis or gives me closure or any of those other psychological mumbo-jumbo terms. I think telling the story here has been a necessary step for me to get up the nerve to make a doctor’s appointment and see what my options are.

I’m not ready to schedule G-tube surgery because I am still eating. Although liquids are difficult to swallow I’m still swallowing them. Can a person live on Ensure alone? Are there other protein supplements or forms of liquid diet available? I had an ear ache recently and I think that was caused by Ensure that I swallowed funny that went up the eustachian tube from the back of my throat into my inner ear. A couple of times over the past few weeks when I was trying to swallow something liquid it would uncontrollably come out my nose and it wasn’t because somebody made me laugh.

Comedian George Carlin once said as a kid in school it was his mission to tell jokes and make food come out your nose. Carlin says says “Michael Davies once passed an entire cheese sandwich out his nostrils. Sister Annunciata thought it was a miracle. ’Come with me young man’ and she whisked him away to the principal. Apparently after a miracle you have to be debriefed by a priest.” That’s a joke funny enough to put food through your nose. I miss George Carlin and its fun to be able to quote a comedian and not have to apologize for quoting a drug wielding rapist like Bill Cosby.

So if swallowing ordinary liquid can give me an earache or make milk come out my nose without anyone telling a joke perhaps a liquid diet isn’t enough. Maybe it really is going to be a G-tube after all. But I won’t know that until I talk to a doctor and my current plan is to call him on Monday. I don’t know if I need a surgeon or a nutrition counselor or an ear nose and throat doctor or what I might need but he should be able to tell me.

 

Surgical Concerns

Anytime I’ve had to have general anesthetic it’s been a risk for me. I currently have 2 wisdom teeth that need to be surgically removed. One of them has cavities. The other is impacted at a 90 degree angle. Fortunately neither of them are currently giving me any problems but I put off doing anything about them because I didn’t want to risk surgery unless it was absolutely necessary. If I do have to have a G-tube there won’t be much doubt that I really need it. I can’t go without eating and I can’t risk aspirating food. If I’m going to risk the anesthetic for the G-tube I might as well have the teeth removed at the same time. And it’s not like I need them anymore 🙂 Also the irony has not escaped me that just as I get a reclining wheelchair that might save me from choking, I might not be eating anymore. I guess is not a total waste because I still get coughing spells from my industrial-strength spit and my sinus drainage.

The emotional strain of all of this has come right in the middle of a very strenuous time to begin with. It’s taken me 10 months to get my new wheelchair and nearly another month to get it working properly. In the middle of all of that, we purchased my late cousin’s wheelchair van because my old lift won’t safely lift the new wheelchair. It’s just been a lot of change with a lot of emotion tied to it. I said at the beginning that having a lifelong disability has been somewhat easier than having one that with onset in the middle of your active life. But as my disability has evolved, there have been moments like this that have been especially tough to swallow. Both figuratively and literally.

I will keep you posted when I know more from the doctor.

Overcoming Disability With a Magic Wand

It’s in my nature to compartmentalize things obsessively. That’s why I have a personal blog, a technology blog, a politics blog, a religion blog, a graphics blog, and entertainment blog rather than just one big blog with different categories. Sometimes life just doesn’t want to be carved up into pieces. In this personal blog I’ve been talking about my struggles with my ever-changing disability. But in my technology blog, I thought about my electronic gadgets that I build and adaptive equipment I’ve designed.

My latest technology blog entry tells the story of my latest assistive technology device built. It includes Bluetooth switch control for my iPhone and a universal IR remote for my TV, cable box, surroundsound, and Blu-ray player. It’s a project that has been in development nearly 3 years off and on. It includes much of the history of how I’ve operated devices like TV remotes and smart phones. Because it is very technical, it really belongs in the tech blog.

However it also explains the struggles I’ve had as my abilities have decreased over the years. That kind of story typically appears here in my personal life blog. So I guess I will just crosspost a link here for those of you who been following this blog.

Like all my stories, it’s extremely long-winded. It’s nearly 6000 words long but I think you’ll enjoy it if you have the time to read through it.
http://tech.cyborg5.com/?p=772

Yet Another Wheelchair Test Drive

Below is another video of a test drive I had yesterday of a loner wheelchair using a different kind of mouth control. It is a slightly smaller joystick using what is known as a bib mount. It hangs around your neck like a bib. Although it looks a little bit awkward, it is larger than it needs to be so that it can be fully adjustable. When I get my own we are going to trim it down to make it fit me better. Also note that I’m not using this wheelchair’s headrest because it is way too high. We just stuck a pillow behind my head and I deliberately left my head tilted back so that would rest firmly against the pillow. It made it a little bit difficult to see to drive. When I get the final product I will have a well fitted headrest and my head will be more upright.

As a result of this test, we are definitely going with some sort of bib mounted joystick. The advantage is that it will move with me. Throughout the day as I slip down inside my back brace, I actually get shorter throughout the day. If we mounted it on the armrest on the backrest we would be constantly readjusting it. I really like the solution much better than anything we’ve tried. Now I’m just waiting on some paperwork.

Test Driving a Wheelchair Using My Mouth

My wheelchair guy dropped by today with 2 different sample joysticks to try out. One was like a little button that you deflect with a finger. I could move it forward and backwards with my thumb and I can turn right but I had trouble turning left. Also I was concerned that if I hit a bump I would not be able to get my finger off of the button. Also my fingers are on the verge of giving out on me or I wouldn’t need a new wheelchair to begin with. The other joystick that he brought is a traditional looking joystick only very small and easy to push. I tried moving it was my mouth with him just holding the joystick up to me. He left the devices with us with our loaner wheelchair. This evening dad and I reached together a mount for the joystick using old brackets and other pieces of scrap metal we had lying around. It was all held together with C clamps as vice grips. Here is a video by test drive. Based on this success we are moving ahead and finally ordering the new wheelchair.

Chillin’ Out in a Test Drive

reclineA couple of days ago my wheelchair guy dropped off a demo of the type of wheelchair that I will be getting. This is not my new wheelchair. It’s just a loner for a test drive. I was not able to mount the control stick where I could use it but dad held the stick up to my hand and I was able to see how the stick works. I’m still not sure whether I will use my hand or my mouth to control it. One of the main reasons I wanted to sit in this wheelchair was to see how it reclines. This photo shows the chair in full reclined position. This is the position that might save my life. I get really bad coughing spells sometimes and the only way to get the gunk cleared is to lie down. If I would get a coughing spell where I was out somewhere it would be really bad. So this ability to recline might be an actual lifesaver. Even at home there have been some times where dad barely got me laid down in time. I know that this recline is far enough because while I was testing it I coughed up a tiny piece of White Castle hamburger that I didn’t realize was stuck in my throat. I’m still waiting on 2 other types of controls that I need to try out.

News about My Disability

In the link below is an article about a minor breakthrough in research about my kind of disease known as Spinal Muscular Atrophy Type II.

I want to give a little context about this article… I have SMA Type II and this study was with SMA Type I. The type I patients exhibit extremely weak muscles at birth and rarely reach their first birthday. It is basically an extremely severe version of what I have. Both types of SMA are caused by a problem with something called the SMN1 gene. The treatment described in this article is called gene therapy. Basically they give you a virus that is designed to insert a repaired version of the gene into your system. It basically infects you with a cure. They tested nine patients. Three of them got a low dose. Six of them got a midsized does. This was mostly just to test that the treatment was safe and did no harm. It wasn’t really to determine how effective the treatment was. However the results showed that the three patients that got the low dose did show some muscle improvement on a standardized test of infant muscle capability and that the six who got the midsized dose showed even more improvement. And none of them died nor did any of them have to go on a ventilator. Basically it’s an extremely preliminary indication that it worked. So the good news is that he may have found some extremely preliminary indications that this treatment can cure my disease. That’s the good news. The bad news is this is working on people who are basically newborns. In someone like me who have had the disease for 60 years, it’s done a crap load of damage to my body so the best I can hope for is that if the treatment ever became available down the road for Type II patients like me, the best I would hope for would be I wouldn’t get any worse. I’ve known for a long time that if they did come up with a treatment, that would be the case. Still it’s good news.

New Gene Therapy Results Announced at World Muscle Congress.